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Old 09-08-2014, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in America
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We are trying to get to the bottom of what specific distance you consider your child unattended.

You mentioned a kiosk. Where I live, they are located on the sidewalks in front of convenience stores. Car parking places pull up to the sidewalk. It's entirely possible the front of your car can be literally two feet away from the kiosk. Cart returns can be just a few feet away if you park your car near the cart return.

You're drawing an unrealistic hard line of what constitutes attended and unattended. You are saying you literally have to be in the car at all times. Period. Or children are unattended.

That means your children are unattended while you pump gas even if you pay for gas at the pump with a credit card. Or do you unload all of your children to stand around you in a gas station parking inhaling gasoline vapors while you pump the gas?

Do you drag your child along with you to put your cart away in the cart return? Do you hold their hands while you are pushing the cart past all of those cars that can't see your child when they are backing out of a parking place? What if there are five children? You only have two hands and one is needed to push the cart.

Let's assume you don't know how to change a tire, but your husband certainly does. If he has the children out with him alone (no other adult is with him), and the car gets a flat tire, does he drag the children out to stand at the side of a busy highway while he changes the tire? Or does he leave the children inside the car while he changes the tire? Either way, he isn't focused on the children. He's focused on changing the tire. Do you really expect us to believe that children are safer standing along a busy highway instead of sitting inside a car while a parent is focused on another task?

Inquiring minds want to know specific details on how you manage to function in your perfect safe little world.
You've completely gone off what the OP posted. I only use drive thru ATM's. Not a problem where I live. And yes, I bring the kids with me back and forth when I return a shopping cart. Not a big deal.

I rarely get gas. My husband normally does it while I remain in the vehicle. When I do get gas, I'm by myself.

You're asking a bunch of what ifs. What ifs that do not apply to me. I would NEVER have 5 children. I'd run away from home before that EVER happened.

I never said anything about having children stand on the side of the highway. That was all you going off on your own odd tangent. That wasn't what the OP asked at all. FYI...we don't have highways where I live.I have to travel 20 minutes to get to one and it's not free so I rarely drive on it anywhere.
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Old 09-08-2014, 10:05 PM
 
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Good for you, want a cookie?
This thread has taken a snarky turn.
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Old 09-08-2014, 10:24 PM
 
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You hold their hand if they're too old to be held. If they're smaller enough to be held, then you hold them. Why is this so difficult?
Why is it necessary if they are strapped into their car seat just a few feet away from you? What is the big deal?

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You've completely gone off what the OP posted. I only use drive thru ATM's. Not a problem where I live. And yes, I bring the kids with me back and forth when I return a shopping cart. Not a big deal.

I rarely get gas. My husband normally does it while I remain in the vehicle. When I do get gas, I'm by myself.

You're asking a bunch of what ifs. What ifs that do not apply to me. I would NEVER have 5 children. I'd run away from home before that EVER happened.

I never said anything about having children stand on the side of the highway. That was all you going off on your own odd tangent. That wasn't what the OP asked at all. FYI...we don't have highways where I live.I have to travel 20 minutes to get to one and it's not free so I rarely drive on it anywhere.
I really don't get what the big deal is for these types of things? I can't believe that people think that it's dangerous to leave a kid in the car while they return a grocery cart or pump gas. If it makes people feel safer to do this then they should go ahead and do it but please don't judge others who don't share this viewpoint. And please don't call 911 for these types of things.
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Old 09-08-2014, 10:40 PM
 
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That is not the only thing which can happen. What if your car gets stolen with your little one in the car?
How is someone going to steal your car if it's locked, you have the car keys, and you're just a few feet away from your car?

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You hold their hand if they're too old to be held. If they're smaller enough to be held, then you hold them. Why is this so difficult?
Some parents have multiple children. My girlfriend has triplets.

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You're asking a bunch of what ifs. What ifs that do not apply to me. I would NEVER have 5 children. I'd run away from home before that EVER happened.
You're making blanket attacks and accusing people of not being good parents without taking into consideration that there are parents who have many more children than you do. My neighbor had 5 children within 6 years. That's right, all of her children are under 6 years old.

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I never said anything about having children stand on the side of the highway. That was all you going off on your own odd tangent. That wasn't what the OP asked at all. FYI...we don't have highways where I live.I have to travel 20 minutes to get to one and it's not free so I rarely drive on it anywhere.
You're evading the question because you know darn well your children would be safer inside the car while a tire is changed instead of having them stand on the side of the road if you had no way to call for roadside assistance because your phone died or didn't have service.
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:03 PM
 
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I used to, but people kept freaking out, now I stick them in the trunk
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:21 PM
 
Location: In the Pearl of the Purchase, Ky
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I think more of my kids to do something like that. You say maybe just to drop off a movie rental or something? Knew a lady who went in a store to buy a coke. No other customers, so she didn't have to wait in line. But just as she got to the register, her 6 yr old got out of the car seat, climbed in the front seat, and took the car through the front of the store.
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:23 PM
 
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I used to, but people kept freaking out, now I stick them in the trunk
I just left mine home alone. It saved me the hassle of getting them dressed and carrying them to the car. I scattered Cheerios on the floor to keep them entertained while I was gone. Truly, they were safer at home. I could have gotten into a car accident while driving to the ATM. As a matter of fact, I never let them leave the house. Ever. I think it's terribly irresponsible for parents to take their children out into the big world. Anything could have happened to them away from home. The world is filled with so many scary people just waiting to take my children. Yep, they were definitely safer at home. And it was way more convenient too because car seats are such a PITA.
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:25 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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I think more of my kids to do something like that. You say maybe just to drop off a movie rental or something? Knew a lady who went in a store to buy a coke. No other customers, so she didn't have to wait in line. But just as she got to the register, her 6 yr old got out of the car seat, climbed in the front seat, and took the car through the front of the store.
Yet again, people leaving the car running and leaving a child while they enter a building. Not at all what most everyone on this thread is discussing.
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:38 PM
 
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I think more of my kids to do something like that. You say maybe just to drop off a movie rental or something? Knew a lady who went in a store to buy a coke. No other customers, so she didn't have to wait in line. But just as she got to the register, her 6 yr old got out of the car seat, climbed in the front seat, and took the car through the front of the store.
you don't leave them with the car running (or the keys, if they're older). Durr.
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:41 PM
 
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Just days ago a sixth-grader in our city just got hit by a driver who ran a red, right in front of his school. Clearly responsible parents shouldn't let kids be at school alone, how lazy and selfish of them!
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