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Old 09-12-2014, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Please let the OP come back .... Please let the OP come back ...

 
Old 09-12-2014, 12:13 PM
 
Location: Geneva, IL
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I've never enjoyed catfish.
 
Old 09-12-2014, 12:34 PM
 
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So many people seem to find this funny. My husband thinks it is too. He actually asked stepson how many pornography sites he had to visit to keep getting all these pictures of "Lindell".

I don't find it funny or a joke AT ALL. I mean Jesus... I'm just shocked at the general responses I have gotten. But maybe this is normal for this day and age.
 
Old 09-12-2014, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Beachwood, OH
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Why would he give out the address? That's just dumb. If he's just in it for the stuff they buy him, he should have just gotten a PO Box. And nude pics? There's not enough online porn for this kid?

I say fake.
 
Old 09-12-2014, 01:08 PM
 
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I'm shocked she didn't say, "This is Lindell's child."

Shocked I tell you.
That sure would have made for a better story!
 
Old 09-12-2014, 01:39 PM
 
Location: Oceania
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If this thread is for real, and I hope it's not, I'd send the kid to military school. Yesterday. I'm hoping this is a made up thread, but if it's not, you've raised a sociopath. (Although since you said this is a stepson, I don't know how much you've had to do with the raising of him, and he is not your genetic material, so he certainly didn't inherit it from you.) You cannot "counsel" a sociopath. Therapy just teaches them how to better conceal their sociopathic behavior, while continuing to harm people to get what they want. Be upfront with the school about what he has done, so that they will know exactly what they are dealing with. If you cannot afford military school (and this would be the sort of thing that you drain the college fund and mortgage the house to pay for), then get everything out of his room except a mattress on the floor, and two sets of clothing. Directly supervise him every minute that he is not in school or after school sports/activities (and you have to verify every day that he was there), so that he has no access to the means to exploit and harm other people. No phone, no computer, no nothing. This is not going to get better. YOU should get therapy, to help you deal with the grief over the realization that you/your husband have raised a sociopath. Have him get a job the day he turns 16, and take 90 percent of what he earns, leaving him just enough to keep him willing to work. Use it to make restitution to his victims, and let him know that you are doing this. If he objects, explain to him that no matter how smart he thinks he is, eventually he will get caught by the law if he exploits and harms other people, and will wind up in prison, and pay financial restitution, so he should just consider this as your effort to have him learn his lesson now, before he becomes a convicted felon.

I am so sorry for your trouble. As awful as this is, take comfort in the fact that he has not yet been arrested. It could have been worse.
Didn't you say earlier a sociopath cannot be counseled? What are you suggesting other than a form of counseling? Jail time would be better.
 
Old 09-12-2014, 01:49 PM
 
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So many people seem to find this funny. My husband thinks it is too. He actually asked stepson how many pornography sites he had to visit to keep getting all these pictures of "Lindell".

I don't find it funny or a joke AT ALL. I mean Jesus... I'm just shocked at the general responses I have gotten. But maybe this is normal for this day and age.
I agree it's not funny because he doesnt know what type of person he may be catfishing. IMO, emotionally unstable women seem to fall into this trap a lot and you really dont know what a person is capable of when they are in a certain mindset after being "catfished"
 
Old 09-12-2014, 01:50 PM
 
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So many people seem to find this funny. My husband thinks it is too. He actually asked stepson how many pornography sites he had to visit to keep getting all these pictures of "Lindell".

I don't find it funny or a joke AT ALL. I mean Jesus... I'm just shocked at the general responses I have gotten. But maybe this is normal for this day and age.
I don't think it's funny. If it were my son, I don't know what I'd do - but probably therapy is where I'd start.

I'm afraid that your husband's attitude about his son's behavior might be at least part of the problem.

But in answer to your question, I think Catfish became somewhat of a cultural phenomenon, and people became desensitized to it. In general, I've found people's attitudes about Catfish victims to be very unsympathetic. While I can't say I'd ever find myself in the position of the woman who knocked on your door, I still think the behavior of anyone who does this to someone else is atrocious.
 
Old 09-12-2014, 01:58 PM
 
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So many people seem to find this funny. My husband thinks it is too. He actually asked stepson how many pornography sites he had to visit to keep getting all these pictures of "Lindell".

I don't find it funny or a joke AT ALL. I mean Jesus... I'm just shocked at the general responses I have gotten. But maybe this is normal for this day and age.
If your husband found it funny, he's a sociopath too. I would pack my bags and leave.
 
Old 09-12-2014, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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I'm torn on how to feel about this. If it were my kid, I'd lose it...they would be in SO MUCH TROUBLE. Not once would I let on to my son that there was anything amusing about it.

But as illustrated in some recent events with one of mine...how one approaches things with one's kid and how one feels about it in a conversation among adults might be two different things.

On the inside and nowhere in my boy's hearing, I would probably have a different reaction...part humor and part hoping that the "victims" learn something. I'm sorry, I know we are NEVER supposed to blame a victim for anything ever...but there has GOT to be a sane middle ground in the world between holding culprits ultimately responsible, yet not being so naive as to invite havoc and ruin upon yourself.

It's like I say... I would never park a fancy car, unlocked, on a street in a bad part of town with a pile of cash and jewelry on the back seat in plain view, and expect nothing to happen to it. Does that mean that a thief is justified in stealing it? No...it means I have a little common sense. I apply that sort of logic to many areas in life. And people need to know better than to just trust people on the internet.

"Bonjour!"
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