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Old 09-29-2014, 03:01 PM
 
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shes very aggressive always fighting with everyone in the house and at the beginning she told me that she was leaving in august we are almost in October and she just keep telling me that she doesn't know when shes gonna leave, what can I do? if I take her stuff out and change the locks, can she sue me because I own the house?

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Old 09-29-2014, 03:47 PM
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Old 09-29-2014, 04:35 PM
 
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shes very aggressive always fighting with everyone in the house and at the beginning she told me that she was leaving in august we are almost in October and she just keep telling me that she doesn't know when shes gonna leave, what can I do? if I take her stuff out and change the locks, can she sue me because I own the house?
If she lives there, then you will have to evict her if she won't leave willingly. Contact your local sheriff's office to learn the procedure. If you let anyone stay in your house for a period of time, then they may accrue tenancy rights and it can become problematic to get them to leave.

What we have done is to help our son live somewhere else by paying his rent. We can't afford it right now, so he has moved back in, but he is used to living on his own now and wants to leave as soon as he can save some money. We are currently reminded why we paid so much for him NOT to live here.

Good luck with your daughter.
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Old 09-29-2014, 05:57 PM
 
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You say that she is "very aggressive" and "always fighting." I would get an order of protection, so she couldn't live there, and then toss her and her stuff out on the street. If she tried to come back I'd call the cops on her.

She's 24. She'll figure it out after that.
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Old 09-29-2014, 06:37 PM
 
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Yes. Your daughter is over 18. You are no longer required by law to provide for her, unless you are still considered a legal guardian. You would follow the same procedures that you would use for any other tenant
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Old 09-29-2014, 07:18 PM
 
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1. Stop feeding her
2. Stop paying for her phone
3. Stop giving her money for clothes, gas, etc.
4. If she starts fighting aggressively and physically, call the police. If she hits you, press charges
5. Find out the landlord laws in your area, and then begin eviction proceedings. Technically, she gave you notice that she was leaving in August, but I doubt anything was in writing. WRITE her a letter, indicating that she needs to find new living arrangements effective (30,60 days from now, whatever the rules are). AND THEN ENFORCE IT. If it's 30 days, then tell her she has to be out by October 31st. On November 1st, her things get boxed up.
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Old 09-29-2014, 08:03 PM
 
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This is a very sad thread. For whatever reason (parenting?), she's angry at the world. Just because the law says that at 18, a person is of age and doesn't/shouldn't need their parents anymore---most of us with sons/daughters of this age know that's not even close to being true. My only suggestion is: family counseling. Get the underlying angst out in the open with a qualified counselor. My gut says this issues goes beyond behavior issues with your daughter. Your home life sounds full of anger and hostility, No doubt all the pressure she's feeling to GET OUT by her own mom/dad is magnifying her helplessness (does she have a job?) and anger. I empathize with her--sorry.
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Old 09-29-2014, 08:23 PM
 
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shes very aggressive always fighting with everyone in the house and at the beginning she told me that she was leaving in august we are almost in October and she just keep telling me that she doesn't know when shes gonna leave, what can I do? if I take her stuff out and change the locks, can she sue me because I own the house?
If she's stuck in the hose, just apply more water pressure hahaha...

If she won't leave the house, I'd suggest that you just kick her out. If she didn't sign any lease with you I'm guessing that she has to leave if you ask her to. That's a tricky area and I'd ask a pro about that.
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Old 09-29-2014, 08:48 PM
 
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shes very aggressive always fighting with everyone in the house and at the beginning she told me that she was leaving in august we are almost in October and she just keep telling me that she doesn't know when shes gonna leave, what can I do? if I take her stuff out and change the locks, can she sue me because I own the house?
Find out the eviction process in your state. Since she lives in the house you have to legally evict her. You do not have to allow her to live in your house but you do need to go through a legal eviction to get her out.
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Old 09-29-2014, 09:40 PM
 
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shes very aggressive always fighting with everyone in the house and at the beginning she told me that she was leaving in august we are almost in October and she just keep telling me that she doesn't know when shes gonna leave, what can I do? if I take her stuff out and change the locks, can she sue me because I own the house?
This is very sad. As a parent, you would, I hope, be willing to do anything you could to help your child. The only reasons you would not, I would assume, are if you felt you were in danger by having your daughter in the house or if you felt your daughter were in danger. If you want her out for another reason, I don't know if I can agree with you. If she's being a nuisance, rebuke her and remind her that she is still living under your roof. If she's required to pay rent and doesn't have a job, help her look for one and assign her chores to help her earn her keep in the meantime. If she's getting into petty squabbles with people, talk with her and find out the issue. Help her in every way you can if she is trying. Evict her only as a last resort. It is a desperate move to put your own offspring on the street; she may resent you when you are older and your life is in her hands, especially if there was an easier solution.
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