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You should not say "Good Lord, helicopter parent much? Your son is 13" without knowing her son.
It would be nicer to say "perhaps at 13..." otherwise you are not impressing me or anyone with your lack of tact.
My son is 14 and because he has some special circumstance I still do set up some things for him. He has 3 of the neuroatypical aspects and so he is socially more like a 11 or 12 year old.
I would try and think about why they may have drifted and analyze whether the friendship was real or not to know whether to pursue it. My son had a friend and I set up play date when the kid went to another school but around 10 years old I realized the Mom was a user when he went back to live with her. The boy had been in foster care, also given to some friend of a friend for awhile, weird stuff. So it was better their friendship fell apart.
One good ting to do is to invite them over for a group play date in the yard with other people and just sort of see how that goes. Ask her what she has been up to, maybe it is some lifestyle change (very busy).
Maybe just you and her could go out to lunch and talk. If all attempts to see them fail then you know to move on. It is hard, I hate it. I just keep trying to keep my son's circle of friend big enough and it takes effort. neighborhoods are often not what they used to be with kids going to schools all over the city and cars rule the roads.
There are these two teenage boys that lived next to each other that were always over at my house when they were around 12. His sister is always over here for a sleep over when the sisters come to stay with us from another town. I asked her brother why they don't hang out any more and he told me it was because he didn't have his phone number anymore. (They live right next to each other you would think he could just knock on his door.) Kids have friends that come and go just like we do as adults. Just at a faster rate. I agree with all the posters that said to let the boys work it out or not. There's nothing worse then being forced to spend time with someone you really don't want to be with. Your son will find other friends.
Sheesh, Some mean spirited jabs....why so dam judgemental?? Fwiw, both boys have special needs...so both struggle make friends. And we don't live near each other. I really regret posting.
There is no single judge mental as you say. All the parents given the answers with the mind of 13 year old young man, who is not willing to see that mama trying to make plans for him. You did not mention that your son is some one with special needs. If so then every one would think in that situation and give you their opinions. If you had ever posted about your son you could link previous post to the recent post. There are lot of posts and it is not possible to remember who said and what. With out giving the right information not only that instead of asking "What Would You Do " WWYD then no surprise you get fnfba for that you get mad at us and calling us "Sheesh, Some mean spirited jabs."?????? why? If you regret posting then don't. And don't forget this is a public forum. If you don't like what people said explain why that is all no need to insult.
Parents need to stop constantly soliving their kids problems. At 13... he should learn to handle this situation himself. Either ask the "friend" what's going on here or just let it be. That's all he needs to do....
Parents need to stop constantly soliving their kids problems. At 13... he should learn to handle this situation himself. Either ask the "friend" what's going on here or just let it be. That's all he needs to do....
Did you see that the kids both have special needs? They may take a little longer than the average kid to learn to work this out themselves.
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