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Old 10-03-2014, 02:27 PM
 
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I have two nephews who are Bronies. At first, I immediately assumed this was a world full of perverts and predators. I was wrong. Thankfully, I did some research and found two great documentaries that explain the Brony phenomenon: "Bronies - The Extremely Unexpected Phenomenon" and "A Brony Tale". I highly recommend you watch them, and then perhaps allow your son to watch them.

It was nothing like I expected, and I was shocked to see hundreds of men from our ARMED FORCES who love MLP. There were people of all ages, races and cultures who found a common thread and all felt scared to share it because we, as a society, generally have no problem with our boys and men watching violent crazy cartoons where people kill each other, but god forbid he likes a magical pony!!! He must be gay! He's demented! Get rid of him! Wow, so much for tolerance.
I would have as much of a problem with a girl becoming a Belieber or following Twilight religiously. It's not about masculinity although I'm sure that may be some people's objection with it. As a parent, I want my child to think for herself and not become a mindless drone to popular culture trash.
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Old 10-03-2014, 02:49 PM
 
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I walked to a different drummer all through school and it was absolute torture. If I could have a pin-point lobotomy that would only remove my memories of high school, I would find a way to pay for it. But, that torture is only a very short time over the course of ones life, relatively speaking. After the torture of school was over and real life started, my differences turned out to be positives throughout the rest of my life. I encouraged my Son to do the same, and at 29, he is very creative and successful also. I think it's more important to teach him not to be swayed by peer pressure and to find his bliss.
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Old 10-03-2014, 02:50 PM
 
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For those that don't know what a brony is, it's a boy that likes My Little Pony. My son recently turned 11 and is a self declared brony. This past week he has been telling/asking me about telling friends at school but he is afraid all the other kids will make fun of him. In a perfect world, I want him to be able to tell whomever he wants but I know kids can be mean. I don't want to say for him to tell people if he can handle bullies, he shouldn't have to. But is it wrong to make him keep it a secret as well. Not sure what the right answer is.
It's quite likely he's just gotten sucked into what is an internet meme\fad for whatever reason. Maybe he's just looking for something to "be a part of" more than anything else.
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Old 10-03-2014, 02:58 PM
 
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I've also heard that a disproportionate amount of those in the fandom have Asperger's.
Oh lawd with the sterotyping in this thread.
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Old 10-03-2014, 02:59 PM
 
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I took my daughter to BronyCon this year (10K Bronies in Baltimore) and honestly the Bronies were the nicest and gentlest people that I have met. Most of them are interested in MLP because they love the show and also in creating original art and music. While you can find porn and what not in every fandom, I didn't see any of that at all at BronyCon.

I think that the OP should be supportive of her son's interest and begin taking an active interest in it. Watch the show together, talk about why he likes it and be sure to monitor his internet usage as well. But Bronies are a very supportive community and I never saw or heard of any pedophile behavior during the convention or my research. I would give him the tools to handle people who have an issue with it, but I wouldn't make him stop. I would also recommend the documentary on Netflix as well. Moderator cut: delete

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Old 10-03-2014, 03:48 PM
 
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For those that don't know what a brony is, it's a boy that likes My Little Pony. My son recently turned 11 and is a self declared brony. This past week he has been telling/asking me about telling friends at school but he is afraid all the other kids will make fun of him. In a perfect world, I want him to be able to tell whomever he wants but I know kids can be mean. I don't want to say for him to tell people if he can handle bullies, he shouldn't have to. But is it wrong to make him keep it a secret as well. Not sure what the right answer is.
The answer is this...to thine ownself be true.

So teach him to be okay with who he is and what he likes, regardless of the opinions others may have about that. (as long as we aren't talking criminal tendencies!)

In addition, you have to take that a step further and teach him that all choices have consequences. The trick to surviving in life is to be prepared to live with the consequences of all our choices - even the ones others don't like or understand. Telling his friends and risking them making fun of him is just part of living with the consequences of his choice to tell.

If you can succeed at his current age in getting him to be proud of who he is, and strong in his belief that he has the right to be who he wants to be, regardless of who laughs or disagrees - you will have done your job as a parent and set him up for a happy future as an adult
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Old 10-03-2014, 03:59 PM
 
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The answer is this...to thine ownself be true.

So teach him to be okay with who he is and what he likes, regardless of the opinions others may have about that. (as long as we aren't talking criminal tendencies!)

In addition, you have to take that a step further and teach him that all choices have consequences. The trick to surviving in life is to be prepared to live with the consequences of all our choices - even the ones others don't like or understand. Telling his friends and risking them making fun of him is just part of living with the consequences of his choice to tell.

If you can succeed at his current age in getting him to be proud of who he is, and strong in his belief that he has the right to be who he wants to be, regardless of who laughs or disagrees - you will have done your job as a parent and set him up for a happy future as an adult
This. My teen daughter is also MLP obsessed and while its not the same as a boy, she still gets teased by other kids for her hobby. We have been telling her something almost identical.
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Old 10-03-2014, 04:01 PM
 
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And how is the Asperger's part of it relevant? If this is a positive way for those on the Autism Spectrum to connect with each other, then why wouldn't people be ok with it? Again, it's quite ironic that most people would have no problem with Aspie boys playing Call of Duty or Modern Warfare that continually desensitizes them to violence, but the ponies are EVIL.

Last time I checked, nobody went postal from watching MLP .
Nobody said they had a problem with people who have Asperger's being Bronies.
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Old 10-03-2014, 04:51 PM
 
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The answer is this...to thine ownself be true.

So teach him to be okay with who he is and what he likes, regardless of the opinions others may have about that. (as long as we aren't talking criminal tendencies!)

In addition, you have to take that a step further and teach him that all choices have consequences. The trick to surviving in life is to be prepared to live with the consequences of all our choices - even the ones others don't like or understand. Telling his friends and risking them making fun of him is just part of living with the consequences of his choice to tell.

If you can succeed at his current age in getting him to be proud of who he is, and strong in his belief that he has the right to be who he wants to be, regardless of who laughs or disagrees - you will have done your job as a parent and set him up for a happy future as an adult
This. There are a lot of things kids like that are kept on the down-low not just things that are considered gender specific. If the kid wants to flaunt it then he will have to live with the consequences like everybody else.
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Old 10-03-2014, 05:20 PM
 
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The documentary on Bronies seemed to play up the autistic/Aspergers aspect of the fandom. Just an observation.
This is interesting. To me it shows that more boys would probably like MLP if they weren't so worried about what other people thought of them.

People w Aspergers have problems w social cues and often appear "odd" to others because they don't understand the concept of "conforming." They are often unable to detect how people think of them, nor do they often care as much as non-Aspies.
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