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Old 10-09-2014, 03:38 AM
 
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OP,
Forget about this boy. Nothing bad really happened to him. He is probably secretly happy, proud, and feels OK.
You daughter tried suicide. That's what matters. Work on this problem, and only when you will be sure she won't try again (well, no one can be sure, but when your daughter becomes stronger and will love life), you can devote your time, effort, emotions etc. to other issues.
Your daughter is your daughter, she is in trouble, try to help her first.

 
Old 10-09-2014, 08:31 AM
 
Location: Backwoods of Maine
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I just don't see a big issue here.

Ages 13-14 is a child; age 7-8 is a child. Children learn by exploring each other's bodies. We used to call it "playing doctor". The 2 kids don't have to be exactly the same age. Children respond differently to another child, than they would to an adult doing the same things. I see no abuse here.

You can't protect your kids from sex forever. Wanting to see or touch a girl's breast is absolutely normal for a young boy. Having a breast that's big enough to draw interest can be a high for a girl.

The suicide issue may or may not be related to the girl's sexuality. But that is always serious. Only the girl's mother knows whether the issue of sexuality had anything to do with the suicide attempt. Take it from there, and deal with that aspect it of. The young boy is fine, IMO.
 
Old 10-09-2014, 09:50 AM
 
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When did this happen w/ your daughter and her cousin? Why were they alone together? Was she his babysitter? You say she isn't sexually active. How would you know for sure? You didn't know about her showing off and letting her little cousin touch her breasts frequently.

The Bible says all sin of offensive to God. Not sure why you bring up being gay like it is a greater sin than lying, stealing or gossiping. Love your daughter for who she is and please, continue her in therapy for having suicidal thoughts first and utmost..
 
Old 10-09-2014, 10:48 AM
 
Location: Over yonder a piece
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Originally Posted by Nor'Eastah View Post
I just don't see a big issue here.

Ages 13-14 is a child; age 7-8 is a child. Children learn by exploring each other's bodies. We used to call it "playing doctor". The 2 kids don't have to be exactly the same age. Children respond differently to another child, than they would to an adult doing the same things. I see no abuse here.

You can't protect your kids from sex forever. Wanting to see or touch a girl's breast is absolutely normal for a young boy. Having a breast that's big enough to draw interest can be a high for a girl.

The suicide issue may or may not be related to the girl's sexuality. But that is always serious. Only the girl's mother knows whether the issue of sexuality had anything to do with the suicide attempt. Take it from there, and deal with that aspect it of. The young boy is fine, IMO.
Would you feel differently if one child was 16 and the other was 6? What if the 13-yr-old was a boy and the 8-yr-old a girl? Still feel that there's no issue?
 
Old 10-09-2014, 11:15 AM
 
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what if the 13-yr-old was a boy and the 8-yr-old a girl? Still feel that there's no issue?
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Old 10-09-2014, 05:01 PM
 
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Would you feel differently if one child was 16 and the other was 6? What if the 13-yr-old was a boy and the 8-yr-old a girl? Still feel that there's no issue?
Genders ARE different with different behavioral patterns. Don't try to mirror the situation that can not be mirrored without change of significance.
 
Old 10-09-2014, 05:05 PM
 
Location: Howard County, Maryland
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Haven't read the replies yet so I don't know if I'm just repeating what has been suggested. YES YES YES you have a responsibility to tell the boys parents. That's not even an option; you MUST tell them. If he was your son, wouldn't you need to know?
 
Old 10-13-2014, 06:52 AM
 
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Wow...gotta shut this down. Sorry I missed this. Would delete but too many replies have been posted.
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