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Old 10-09-2014, 07:21 PM
 
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Around here if you distribute the invitations in the school, you have to invite the whole class. Classes are around 18 kids and not all of them go. Parents usually don't stay, only 2 or 3 do. I agree that it's a great way to get to know other parents.
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Old 10-09-2014, 08:09 PM
 
Location: Mount Pleasant, SC
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I think that will be a nice party . I think if you invite the whole class you will have trouble handling all those kids unless some parents come as well and from prior exp that will not be very many parents .
Have you heard of "drop & dump"? Parents drop their child, take off w/o even saying hello, & show up to pickup later. Ugly but I've seen rants about such rude behavior. Be sure you know what you're getting into with "the whole class" coming.
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Old 10-09-2014, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Texas
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This is how we did it and never regretted it. I cannot imagine inflicting 20+ kids on a 5 year old. That is not a good environment for making new friends because she wont't get any individual time with anyone.

for that age: I would have her invite one friend on a very special outing. Save the big party for next year.

In fact, I know a lot of families who have a friend party in alternating years, and family only parties or just one friend in the other years.

But the OP's daughter is new to the school and knows no one well enough to invite for a 1-1. When 20 kids are invited not all attend - at least, that has been my experience (which includes over 20 parties these past 2 years ).
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Old 10-09-2014, 08:33 PM
 
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Have you heard of "drop & dump"? Parents drop their child, take off w/o even saying hello, & show up to pickup later. Ugly but I've seen rants about such rude behavior. Be sure you know what you're getting into with "the whole class" coming.
You can put on the invite asking parents to stay, or discuss this when they RSVP. I've never had this be an issue and I've been to hundreds of birthday parties for children as a parent and a teacher.
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Old 10-09-2014, 08:55 PM
 
Location: Georgia
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my daughter was telling me that my granddaughters teacher said that if the invites were handed out at school they had to invite the whole class because they are concerned about some kids feelings getting hurt for not being invited ...really ? the nerve of these school administrators telling ppl how they should do things
Sorry, I agree with the school on ths one. Unless you're giving an invitation to everyone, then you need to be mailing invitations to the child's home. It's just too darn cruel to the ones who aren't invited -- especially when it's just one or two kids who don't make the cut.
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Old 10-09-2014, 08:58 PM
 
Location: Georgia
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Have you heard of "drop & dump"? Parents drop their child, take off w/o even saying hello, & show up to pickup later. Ugly but I've seen rants about such rude behavior. Be sure you know what you're getting into with "the whole class" coming.
Well . . . frankly, as the host of numerous birthday parties, I always found it difficult when a lot of parents stayed, because I felt like I had to entertain them AND run the kids' entertainment. There was always 2 or 3 frends who helped out, but otherwise, I'd rather NOT have 20 parents running around chasing after their kid! I don't consider it rude not to stay, but if someone wants to stay, they are welcome. Keep the parties relatively short -- no more than 90 minutes, for a 5 year old.
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Old 10-09-2014, 09:18 PM
 
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I would do the whole class party. It will be a good way for you to get to know the kids and their parents, and for your daughter to feel like she has a whole bunch of friends. I really like whole class parties--there's not many years before the genders separate themselves and even the parents have their own cliques. Right now you are in a great position (new to the area and in kindergarten) to get to know as many kids and families as possible.

I also agree with the posters who suggested choosing a location other than your home. For large whole class parties I've always found places that take care of everything for you are well worth the money! Besides, once you buy all the supplies and entertainment for an at home party, the cost isn't usually that different.

I hope your daughter has a wonderful birthday, whatever you choose!
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Old 10-09-2014, 09:24 PM
 
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Have you heard of "drop & dump"? Parents drop their child, take off w/o even saying hello, & show up to pickup later. Ugly but I've seen rants about such rude behavior. Be sure you know what you're getting into with "the whole class" coming.
On the bright side, you'll quickly discover which parents are not worth getting to know.
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Old 10-09-2014, 09:27 PM
 
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On the bright side, you'll quickly discover which parents are not worth getting to know.
Ding ding ding! We have a winner.

I had one parent I met that was so rude and uncouth, I didn't arrange anymore play dates. ( she was a closet racist and obnoxious) I'm not dealing with that mess, when my kid has lots of other friends to play with.

Why not have the outing at a park/ playground. Bring coffee in a thermos, muffins, and snacks/drinks for the kids. You can have a treasure hunt or an obstacle course. Then you let the kids play. After that cake and presents. Easy! About 90 minutes is perfect. just have one candle as the wind can affect its being lit. The kids could come in ahalloween costume and you do an Easter egg style hunt for wrapped candies. The gift for each kid is actually a plastic pail or pumpkin.
I've been to so many parties, I've got a million ideas.
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Old 10-10-2014, 09:22 AM
 
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Great ideas and thank you all for the experienced opinions. I will take y'lls opinion and invite the whole class maybe do it in a place like My gym where they handle everything.

Meyerland- I love your park and treasure hunt idea. Its surely going to be her next birthday when we get settled here more. Many thanks !

I really appreciate each and everyone of you taking the time and responding. So so helpful
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