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Old 10-13-2014, 04:01 PM
 
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I have veuvegirl but she just moans.

For Winter she is getting a 3 in 1 but how many should I ask her to zip, one or all three? School have said that all three will in order to keep her warm, she listens to school teacher though, if he asks her to zip her coat, she puts up no fuss and obeys so how can't she do it for me :-(, even her dad gets obeyed, he has same opinion as me and also backs School and has told her that three zips will get zipped.
She is just using this as a power play, testing you.....because you are so focused on it.

If she is doing what her teachers says....that is a good thing. I would ignore her unzipped coat. You seem to be turning this into a real issue.....believe me, as children get older, there will be some real issues....this isn't one of them.

Either let her have natural consequences, she gets cold, figures it out and zips....

Or you tell her once, (too late now) and discipline her when she disobeys. I would certainly quit buying name brands and expensive coats.....That would be my consequence.....if she were my kid. Who needs and expensive coat, if they can't wear it properly....

 
Old 10-13-2014, 04:03 PM
 
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She whines though so to stop the whinging, I zip the coat. I know that is wrong but it is easier than listening to her complaints.
That's why she doesn't zip it herself, she has you trained. It's taken seven years but the training is complete - you will do whatever she wants. It only gets better from here; wait until she is a teenager.
 
Old 10-13-2014, 04:12 PM
 
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That's why she doesn't zip it herself, she has you trained. It's taken seven years but the training is complete - you will do whatever she wants. It only gets better from here; wait until she is a teenager.
Exactly what I was thinking. Mom, you'd better figure this one out. What're you going to do with the big issues? So she sulks, that's what they do!
 
Old 10-13-2014, 04:19 PM
 
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She is also made to zip it at School during playtimes because School have a rule that, coats must be zipped on rainy or snowy days because School don't like kids coming in with dirty/soaking uniforms.
If she can do it for school, she can do it for you. Kids whine; get over it.
 
Old 10-13-2014, 04:53 PM
 
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Who cares? If she's cold enough, she'll do it. In another year or 2 you won't be able to get her to wear one at all.
 
Old 10-13-2014, 06:55 PM
 
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She won't zip one layer on her own and you're going to expect 3? Why? Who thinks she needs 3 layers? The battle is only going to grow because now which layers are zipped (or not) will become an issue. She has you well trained.

When one son was about 9 or 10 I quit making him wear a coat at all because I got tired of picking them up from school or him loosing them entirely. I quit buying nice ones. I figured if he was cold he'd wear a coat. Kid is now in his 20s and rarely wears a coat.
 
Old 10-13-2014, 06:57 PM
 
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She whines though so to stop the whinging, I zip the coat. I know that is wrong but it is easier than listening to her complaints.
I haven't ready any posts after this one, so you know.

What you do is tell her to "zip it" since she refuses to zip it.

Of course, "zip it" isn't the phrase *I* would use.
 
Old 10-13-2014, 07:45 PM
 
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I "force her" because if she gets cold, she whines and whines again when I tell her to zip her coat.

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Buy ear plugs.

A big box. She's learned she can whine and Mom can't take it. You'll need the jumbo size box, or a lot of spare cash, because she'll be whining for a car when she's 16.
 
Old 10-13-2014, 08:42 PM
 
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My 7yr old daughter Erin is bad for coming out of School on days that its cold with her coat unzipped. When I ask her to "zip up your coat", she says "you do it" but she is perfectly capable of doing it for herself, I get sick of having to zip it up everyday just because she is to lazy to do it by herself.

She is fussy about coats, she will only wear Regatta coats that MUST have zips, she hates coats that have buttons or toggles.

So, how can I get her zipping her coat by herself (she can do it but is to lazy)? She is very independent apart from this and liking to hold my hand evetytime we go out.
Let her freeze. If she's cold, she'll zip it. Don't make it a power struggle.
 
Old 10-13-2014, 08:47 PM
 
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I have had her come out of School shivering due to not zipping her coat plus, I am parent so if I say it needs zipped, then it will get zipped.

If it is raining, I usually insist it gets zipped, same with winter. In Winter, it gets zipped nearly everyday due to winter chill and fact she feels cold a lot more than other kids.

Surely I am right to insist it gets zipped in Winter??
No....you've provided the coat...you are sure she can zip it herself (and do make sure she can) and you are making this a hill to die on? It's not a moral issue.

You said she's independent...we'll...she's exercising her independence by driving you nuts on this non-issue. You want to control what she does....and she's doing her way. Drop it....let her suffer the consequences and you'll find she'll start zipping up her coat. The more you micro manage little stuff like this....the harder and more unhappy your life is going to get.
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