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My answer would be different if you wanted kids but since you "never wanted kids", I would leave the decision of your participation in the child's life up to the mother. It is probable it would be easier for her, and better for the kid if you stayed out of their life.
Like I said, I value my personal freedom, I like to come and go as I please without commitment or family responsabilities. That doesn't along with having a child. I never had a good role model in my father so I could never be good to him (not talking about the abusive nature of my father of course).
I just think it's better to be honest now than to abandon him when he's old enough to remember it. It would be much worse then.
No matter what you think now, that child will have a mind of his own when he is older.And are you prepared to ever face him when he is older.
She gets along well with her family, I'm sure they wouldn't mind taking care of the child once in a while so she can have a bit of time for herself.
Won't that be nice. So, once in awhile she can have a bit of time for herself in between not getting any sleep and having to deal with a newborn all by herself. You clearly have no idea what having a baby is like.
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Yes, I do. But what does that have to do with this?
You are clearly expecting someone else to come in and take care of this for you - I was just wondering if you were like this in all areas of life. You want to throw some money at her and have her find some other guy to be a daddy to your child. It seems you aren't really used to being responsible for yourself.
Don't do this to your child. He or she will need both parents in their life. No amount of $$$ can take the place of that. Us who grew up missing one or both parents will tell you this. People like me can attest to this as well.
Please dude...Be there for the child. it's the only right thing to do. This world is often challenging enough for us as it is.
No matter what you think now, that child will have a mind of his own when he is older.And are you prepared to ever face him when he is older.
That's one of my main fears, that he comes looking for me one day. I don't know how I'll react or what he'll want from me.
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Raising a child is HARD. Having some money helps - but it doesn't take the place of another parent.
She'll be able to pay for daycare.
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