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Old 04-27-2009, 11:12 PM
 
Location: Michigan
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I know - when I was 14 I was in the 8th grade and the world probably ended 79 times a day. I probably died 1,000 times. Every boy was going to be my husband. Every girl was my bff or my arch enemy. Teachers were out to destroy me. 8th grade for me was more drama then a whole series of daytime soaps.
Is every 14-year-old girl exactly like you were?
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Old 04-28-2009, 03:15 AM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA
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I wouldnt allow that kind of privacy to my kids.
However (im talking about my own expiriences):
They forbid me that kind of privacy too. BUT: I still did what I wanted, I just had to find a different place to do it

You see: Kids do what they want.
But I still think its good to forbid, because it makes your kids smart
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Old 04-28-2009, 10:56 AM
 
Location: chicagoland
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Is every 14-year-old girl exactly like you were?
Probably most!
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Old 04-28-2009, 11:27 AM
 
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Is every 14-year-old girl exactly like you were?
No. Just the drama queens. Many, many girls are down to earth, sensible and have their heads on straight at that age. It's all about maturity.
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Old 04-28-2009, 11:33 AM
 
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They are less repressed, which is not a bad thing in itself, but they need comprehensive sex education, as well as, hopefully, non-fanatical parents.
A lot of kids can just plain be trusted. Because they have a door closed does not mean sex.

Teens put more value on privacy than any other age group until mature adults. Closing a door, to them, is privacy. There's nothing bad about it.
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Old 04-28-2009, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Michigan
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I want to clarify, I don't think kids are entitled to privacy until they own they are out of their parents' house and paying for it. I simply don't think teen sex is that big a deal if they are safe and responsible.
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Old 04-28-2009, 01:50 PM
 
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Times are changing...I was 18 when my boyfriend was allowed to spend the night in my room and in my bed . My mom thought we werent having sex and oh boy was she wrong. We would wait until everyone was asleep and get it on all night Heck sometimes we wouldnt even wait we would just shove something against the door turn the music up and do it that way ...OR i'd say im taking a shower and we'd both go in and get it on ....In every room of the house . She was just absolutely clueless. Those 2 kids are definetly fooling around... She was SHOCKED when I told her I was pregnant. I was like what the hell are you so shocked for she seriously had no clue that I was a bonafied freak !!
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Old 04-28-2009, 01:52 PM
 
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If she's really so concerned just stand by the door and listen! DUH! If you hear some moaning or something going on than let the parents know...I would lie imo and say oh i heard so and so saying /doing this and that would end that lil arrangement
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Old 04-29-2009, 12:57 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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Is every 14-year-old girl exactly like you were?
Probably not but that's why I said when I was 14 not all 14 year old girls so I'm not really understanding the purpose of your question....

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Old 04-29-2009, 01:03 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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No. Just the drama queens. Many, many girls are down to earth, sensible and have their heads on straight at that age. It's all about maturity.
I take offense to your comment; I didn't consider myself a drama queen but when I was at that age my emotions ran rampant. When I was teaching (and I was actually teaching freshmen so they were older) I would have to bite the insides of my cheeks to keep from laughing at the things these kids stress about. I remember one girl being hysterical because another girl had told everyone else she hadn't started her cycle yet and she was already 15! Ahh the horror! Yes there are some that are extremely mature and there are some that aren't. My point is 14 is still young, the body is still developing (most times faster than your brain) peer pressure is really starting to kick in, etc.

I grew up with 3 brothers, I can just imagine 1 of them telling their other 14 and 15 year old friends they were in a bedroom with a girlfriend with the door closed on the 3rd floor while everyone else is on the first floor. Reputations all across the county would be ruined during intense games of Madden and bags of Doritos.

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