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He is only 16, but he has met this girl at the mall 3 times now, to take her to the movie.
He met her mom once at the mall, and we are just a little excited for him, since this is his real first girl friend!
So, the girl invited my son to go to the movies with her, her parents, the aunt, and the cousin.
Her parents said, no. My son is wondering if he did something wrong, or if they are just strict.
I told him we could invite her to go to dinner with us sometime, and see if her parents would allow that?
I may add that we are all new to this girlfriend business. lol
He is only 16, but he has met this girl at the mall 3 times now, to take her to the movie.
He met her mom once at the mall, and we are just a little excited for him, since this is his real first girl friend!
So, the girl invited my son to go to the movies with her, her parents, the aunt, and the cousin.
Her parents said, no. My son is wondering if he did something wrong, or if they are just strict.
I told him we could invite her to go to dinner with us sometime, and see if her parents would allow that?
I may add that we are all new to this girlfriend business. lol
my first girl-friend couldn't car date til she was 17,
she was a sweet catholic girl ...
some parents are very very strict,,,,,its not your son..
unless your son is dressed out all goth with green hair and carries an axe
at 16 everything is a big deal,,,,if one girl says no ,,the whole species doesn't like you,,
I don't see it as anything that your son did wrong or being strict or not, but maybe it was just a family outing and they wanted to keep it at that. There were plenty of events/activities we have done over the years where we did not invite high school boyfriends or girlfriends. It isn't a relationship that needs to be included in "family" events yet.
I have a feeling it has nothing to do with your son. I bet the girl invited him without asking her parents first. If she had asked them first she may have found out that this trip was family only. But hey she's a kid too and you know they don't think at this age
I don't see it as anything that your son did wrong or being strict or not, but maybe it was just a family outing and they wanted to keep it at that. There were plenty of events/activities we have done over the years where we did not invite high school boyfriends or girlfriends. It isn't a relationship that needs to be included in "family" events yet.
I agree.
Heck, we never invited/included our teenage/young adult children's boyfriends or girlfriends to family events unless they had been dating for at least a year or more and there was the possibility of marriage in the future (even if the possibility was very, very slight).
I can't even imagine inviting a casual BF or GF to a family event such as the OP described after only a couple of dates. Now, friends , who may or may not be of the opposite sex were sometimes invited along, but just as friends not as "dates".
My nephew used to invite his current girlfriend to all family events, such as Christmas dinner, family picnics, weddings, baby showers. We must have met 25 to 30 women from the time that he was 18 until he married 15 years later. It just seemed pretty silly to the extended family to met women that he had only dated a couple of times or a few months.
I remember once when he brought a woman who had he dated only one time to a family picnic (with all his aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents/parents/siblings). It turned out that they only went out on one more date after that and then broke up. Why in the world did he feel it necessary to introduce her to the entire family?
Last edited by germaine2626; 02-28-2015 at 06:44 PM..
Heck, we never invited/included our teenage/young adult children's boyfriends or girlfriends to family events unless they had been dating for at least a year or more and there was the possibility of marriage in the future (even if the possibility was very, very slight).
I can't even imagine inviting a casual BF or GF to a family event such as the OP described after only a couple of dates. Now, friends , who may or may not be of the opposite sex were sometimes invited along, but just as friends not as "dates".
My nephew used to invite his current girlfriend to all family events, such as Christmas dinner, family picnics, weddings, baby showers. We must have met 25 to 30 women from the time that he was 18 until he married 15 years later. It just seemed pretty silly to the extended family to met women that he had only dated a couple of times or a few months.
I remember once when he brought a woman who had he dated only one time to a family picnic (with all his aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents/parents/siblings). It turned out that they only went out on one more date after that and then broke up. Why in the world did he feel it necessary to introduce her to the entire family?
I wanted to add to my post. I am just an aunt, who lives in another town and only sees my nephewa few times a year and I must have met 25 to 30 women that he dated. I wouldn't be surprised if his parents met double or triple that number. He (mostly) lived at home until he got married so he always brought his dates back home for family meals and family activities. Ironically, his sisters only brought home a couple of very, very serious boyfriends (potential husbands) during their dating years.
OP, do you really want to met the parents of every girl that your son dates? Are you really surprised that the parents, aunt and cousin of a girl that he dated only three times did not want to include him on a family outing?
Of course, that is just my opinion.
OP, maybe your son will only have a few girlfriends or maybe he will be the type that changes girlfriends as often as he changes his underwear. At age 16 you can not predict the future.
Last edited by germaine2626; 02-28-2015 at 10:40 PM..
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