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Living with mom: SS check, mail, rental residence, household expenses, personal property

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Old 01-24-2008, 10:33 AM
 
Location: Wake Forest
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what a tough situation for you to be in!

I really agree that you need to give her options (and scaring her of government might be a good thing!)

- stay, sell everything, and pay us X amount a month
-move back home
- sell everything, get an apartment here

I would give 2 weeks to make the decision. Regardless of her decision, she needs to make a will and/or living will/ trust. She's not getting any younger.
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Old 01-24-2008, 08:19 PM
 
Location: Cosmic Consciousness
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... Would it be wrong if I asked my mother to help pay her share of the monthly expenses? I'm really scared to ask her ... My husband...won't say any thing to her either...

Hi, grammyx5.
We teach people HOW to treat us by how we LET them treat us. With every word you don't say, and every action you don't take, and every anger you swallow, you are teaching this woman to treat you with as much hatred as she has for herself.

Look at how you are teaching your children to throw away their integrity as you have thrown away yours, and live their lives as scardey-pants 8 year olds!

Life is not intended to be slavery. Blood relatives are sometimes only the humans who provided bodies and upbringing for the energies, us, who were ready to come to this life. Blood relatives are slave masters only if we grant them slave mastery.

Since both you and your husband are over 21, it's time you both stop being scardey-pants 8 year olds and feel, think and behave like the powerful, centered adults who are waiting within you.

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Old 01-25-2008, 01:46 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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Just move into her house. Leave her at yours. If she asks, tell her that you are just visiting her for a while.
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Old 01-25-2008, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Cosmic Consciousness
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Just move into her house. Leave her at yours. If she asks, tell her that you are just visiting her for a while.

Yes yes excellent brilliant!! Now THAT's REAL advice.
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Old 01-26-2008, 09:40 PM
 
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My 80 years old mother came for a "month" visit in 2004. She is still living with us and has changed her SS check, mail, doctors, etc., to reflect this. She still owns her residence in AZ, plus 1 rental residence (receives $450 rent per mo), 1 commercial unimproved building lot, and 20 acres in northern Arizona. She does not contribute to our everyday household expenses, groceries, car expenses, etc. Twice in the past three years her house in AZ has been broken into and burgurlarized. Both times she acted like "oh well...", yet she insisted that my husband and I go back and secure the house and assess the damages and losses. She very reluctantly reimburses us for some of our expenses. We are still out over $1600.00 of our money not to mention vacation time taken from work. She refuses to sell any of her properties. They are sitting and deteriorating, not to mention the vandalisim and loss of personal property and family treasures. She refuses to make a will or living trust. My mother is not dessituted. My husband and I are $165,000 in debt due to illness and a failed business and are trying to pay it off and avoid bankruptcy. Would it be wrong if I asked my mother to help pay her share of the monthly expenses? I'm really scared to ask her, she has always been abussive toward me and I know I'll have to hear all about how ungrateful I am. I'll just keep my mouth shou, it's better than taking the wrath of her. My husband is very tolerant and won't say any thing to her either. He dosen't want her wrath either. Sorry, thanks for letting me vent...
How you getting on? Hope all OK???
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