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Old 06-04-2015, 09:47 PM
 
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My sixteen-year-old daughter responded to this thread by asking me about circumcision. Her teenage outrage machine kicked into high gear, and she exclaimed, "Ridiculing a boy for being uncirc'd is body shaming, mom! That is so NOT okay. Besides, isn't that skin supposed to be there?" So here's a girl who's clearly not going to have a problem with intact boys. Relax, OP.

 
Old 06-04-2015, 09:58 PM
 
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One of my sons is circ'd, the other is not. They're both happy with what they've got, but if that ever changes I will happy foot the bill to correct it. Personally, I don't think it's ever okay to ridicule someone's genitals, especially over a choice they did not make for themselves.
 
Old 06-04-2015, 10:37 PM
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Originally Posted by CamillaPinecone View Post
When my son was born (he's 13 now), I decided to not get him circumcised. I didn't want him to go through any pain and according to all the statistics I read, for boys born in the late 90's/early 00's, the circumcision rate was only around 50%, so I assumed it would be seen as normal for american boys to have foreskins. But, I'm learning more and more that that's not the case. My first realization of this occurred when my son had to get a physical to enroll in elementary school. When it was time for the genital portion of the exam, the pediatrician was not only visibly surprised he was uncircumcised, but she did not seem to understand that it's perfectly normal for a 6 year old boy's foreskin to not be able to be pulled back yet and recommend I have him circumcised. I noticed that next to the "Genitals" box on the form, she checked the "Abnormal finding" box and wrote "uncircumcised" in the margin (Not even "tight foreskin", just "uncircumcised"). I just assumed she acted like this because when she was growing up it was way rarer than it is now and it was seen as gross and weird, and it never crossed my mind that teens still might believe that now a days. However, today (this is what's prompting this post), my daughter (16) was looking through an old family photo album and came across a picture of DS when he was a toddler taking a bath and saw he was uncircumcised. She let out a large "ewwwwww" and started questioning me about why I didn't have him circumcised and if I know how gross and unclean it is and if I know he'll never get a girlfriend. All the stuff I've seen online seems to suggest being uncircumcised is common in America now and the stigma is gone, but after what my daughter said and remembering how the pediatrician acted, I'm not so sure. Does anybody know if at least among teens, hate of uncircumcised boys is common (especially in the Northern Virginia area, which is where I live)? I'm worried about DS.
I'm uncircumcised, 65 years of age, and grew up in a community where circumcision was the practice for 98+% of boys at the time. I took some hazing as a junior-high-schooler, but learned I wasn't so "abnormal" as I went to college and travelled more. I was never given to "playing the field", but by the time I was living in a frat house, I got some comments as to whether I had an advantage most other guys didn't (which, BTW, I view as nonsense).

To our OP .... relax; we are all being conditioned to worry way too much about what "other people" will think!!

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Old 06-04-2015, 10:50 PM
 
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Regardless of how many WASPs live in Great Falls, your doctor is still an idiot. Find a new one.
 
Old 06-04-2015, 10:56 PM
 
Location: Texas
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What kind of weirdo pediatrician is this?
Are you sure it was a doctor?

No, no one cares.
Except for the people who are hell bent and obsessed with mutilating baby genitalia.
 
Old 06-04-2015, 11:09 PM
 
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Originally Posted by CamillaPinecone View Post
When my son was born (he's 13 now), I decided to not get him circumcised. I didn't want him to go through any pain and according to all the statistics I read, for boys born in the late 90's/early 00's, the circumcision rate was only around 50%, so I assumed it would be seen as normal for american boys to have foreskins. But, I'm learning more and more that that's not the case. My first realization of this occurred when my son had to get a physical to enroll in elementary school. When it was time for the genital portion of the exam, the pediatrician was not only visibly surprised he was uncircumcised, but she did not seem to understand that it's perfectly normal for a 6 year old boy's foreskin to not be able to be pulled back yet and recommend I have him circumcised. I noticed that next to the "Genitals" box on the form, she checked the "Abnormal finding" box and wrote "uncircumcised" in the margin (Not even "tight foreskin", just "uncircumcised"). I just assumed she acted like this because when she was growing up it was way rarer than it is now and it was seen as gross and weird, and it never crossed my mind that teens still might believe that now a days.
No, it's a health concern, and so the doctor was obligated to note it. Neonatal circumcision rates in the US are about 60%, but overall rates are 70+%, and it's more like 90% among non-hispanic white males.

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However, today (this is what's prompting this post), my daughter (16) was looking through an old family photo album and came across a picture of DS when he was a toddler taking a bath and saw he was uncircumcised. She let out a large "ewwwwww" and started questioning me about why I didn't have him circumcised and if I know how gross and unclean it is and if I know he'll never get a girlfriend. All the stuff I've seen online seems to suggest being uncircumcised is common in America now and the stigma is gone, but after what my daughter said and remembering how the pediatrician acted, I'm not so sure. Does anybody know if at least among teens, hate of uncircumcised boys is common (especially in the Northern Virginia area, which is where I live)? I'm worried about DS.
Yes, it is common to be made fun of if you are uncircumcised, except in certain regions (such as Northern California). However, it's too late to worry about it now. Either do it when the child is too young to remember, or don't do it at all. So don't bother beating yourself up about it, just put it out of your mind. It's not that big of a deal, and your son won't die from a little razzing and a surprised or disgusted girlfriend.
 
Old 06-04-2015, 11:21 PM
 
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Is there a large stigma? One would hope so.
 
Old 06-05-2015, 03:20 AM
 
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I can't imagine anyone caring. Few people are going to see it anyway. Don't even believe the whole "guys in the locker room" stuff either. Somehow every person I know got through their school years without exposing their genitals to anyone, and I'm 53 so that's a whole lotta people. Not to say some don't WANT to show off their stuff, kids are like that and many don't care either way, but it's not a requirement.
 
Old 06-05-2015, 06:18 AM
 
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I have heard more than one woman make the comment that they will not do oral stuff with guys who are uncut. That sounds like reason enough to get circumcised to me but I agree with the poster who said if you don't do it at birth don't do it at all. At this point it's up to your son.
 
Old 06-05-2015, 07:28 AM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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I would make sure the school gets a new doctor. Sounds like they barely graduated med school
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