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Old 06-18-2015, 08:48 PM
 
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Dear stranger who crossed my path at the pool/Target/public playground/library/poster paint aisle at Michael's. My kid called you a name. I want him to apologize to you but I need you to fill out this form to find out how your feel about that. Check all the boxes that apply. Thanks.

__I get offended easily

__I consider myself a victim of _____________ discrimination.

__My kids say rude things to strangers so I think your kid is normal.

__Why should he apologize? He's right. I am _____________ and I'm very well adjusted.

__Make the little bugger apologize.

__I'm a registered sex offender. I want your kid to come sit on my knee.

__Your son doesn't look like you. Is he __adopted __the result of an affair __ just funny looking.

__Go away.

__My kids say worse. No one likes them.
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Old 06-18-2015, 08:48 PM
 
Location: california
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When I was in good shape in my younger years, I was proud of the hard work the made me fit and healthy. Showing it off was apropreate.
Due tO injuries and drasTic changes in MY life style, I've added some weight that is not quit so becomming ,so showing it of is INAPPROPREATE.
IMO
It is wrong to celibrate some one's abuse of them self, especially in public.
But that's my opinion, and I live by it.
Now I have been bullied as a child but no one bullies me now and I don't bully any one either.
If a child is merely takng note of some one's unusual charicteristics in a currious manor ,I see nothing wrong with that, Kids need to be some what free to express themself with in reason. so long as it is not an attack ment in cruelty.
People have poor communication skills because so much is being suppressed ..
Kids don't ask enough quetions as it is.
If your afraid of being challanged, you got the problem.
Don't have so much pride, you can't look it up together.
Would you respect a doctor that lied to you about your weight problem ?
Honestly
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Old 06-18-2015, 08:53 PM
 
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Dear stranger who crossed my path at the pool/Target/public playground/library/poster paint aisle at Michael's. My kid called you a name. I want him to apologize to you but I need you to fill out this form to find out how your feel about that. Check all the boxes that apply. Thanks.

__I get offended easily

__I consider myself a victim of _____________ discrimination.

__My kids say rude things to strangers so I think your kid is normal.

__Why should he apologize? He's right. I am _____________ and I'm very well adjusted.

__Make the little bugger apologize.

__I'm a registered sex offender. I want your kid to come sit on my knee.

__Your son doesn't look like you. Is he __adopted __the result of an affair __ just funny looking.

__Go away.

__My kids say worse. No one likes them.
Thanks for this, I'll make copies.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:25 PM
 
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You are the one who is depicting a "scene" not me. I clearly explained that there would be no "scene" in my example. The "scene" is the problem, not the apology.
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Yep. My priority was raising kids who were polite and didn't mouth off in public.

Hang me from the yardarm because I succeeded.
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Please do share how we are to know what response the victim would prefer. Understanding that not everyone feels as you do.
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Originally Posted by DewDropInn View Post
Dear stranger who crossed my path at the pool/Target/public playground/library/poster paint aisle at Michael's. My kid called you a name. I want him to apologize to you but I need you to fill out this form to find out how your feel about that. Check all the boxes that apply. Thanks.

__I get offended easily

__I consider myself a victim of _____________ discrimination.

__My kids say rude things to strangers so I think your kid is normal.

__Why should he apologize? He's right. I am _____________ and I'm very well adjusted.

__Make the little bugger apologize.

__I'm a registered sex offender. I want your kid to come sit on my knee.

__Your son doesn't look like you. Is he __adopted __the result of an affair __ just funny looking.

__Go away.

__My kids say worse. No one likes them.
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Thanks for this, I'll make copies.
The amount of concern shown for the actual victim is quite touching. Really. And let me just say that more people than you think feel the way I do about fake/forced apologies.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:26 PM
 
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Also, just in case you missed my point.

IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU AND YOUR CHILD. It is about the person who was hurt by your child's words and/or actions.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:30 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles>Little Rock>Houston>Little Rock
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When I was in good shape in my younger years, I was proud of the hard work the made me fit and healthy. Showing it off was apropreate.
Due tO injuries and drasTic changes in MY life style, I've added some weight that is not quit so becomming ,so showing it of is INAPPROPREATE.
IMO
It is wrong to celibrate some one's abuse of them self, especially in public.
But that's my opinion, and I live by it.
Now I have been bullied as a child but no one bullies me now and I don't bully any one either.
If a child is merely takng note of some one's unusual charicteristics in a currious manor ,I see nothing wrong with that, Kids need to be some what free to express themself with in reason. so long as it is not an attack ment in cruelty.
People have poor communication skills because so much is being suppressed ..
Kids don't ask enough quetions as it is.
If your afraid of being challanged, you got the problem.
Don't have so much pride, you can't look it up together.
Would you respect a doctor that lied to you about your weight problem ?
Honestly

WTH?!?!?

It sounds like you are saying fat people should not be seen in public.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:37 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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Please do share how we are to know what response the victim would prefer. Understanding that not everyone feels as you do.
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Also, just in case you missed my point.

IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU AND YOUR CHILD. It is about the person who was hurt by your child's words and/or actions.
I'm still waiting for an answer to my question. Unless of course the answer is the only acceptable feelings are....yours.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:40 PM
 
Location: BC, Arizona
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Forget kids apologizing for fat shaming, seems some parents here are spoiling for a chance to use their kids to pile on.

Nobody is going to tell them it's not their right to use others as a prop. Fine, next topic.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:40 PM
 
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I'm still waiting for an answer to my question. Unless of course the answer is the only acceptable feelings are....yours.
Why ask me? You obviously don't care what I feel or think.

The only advice I can give is to step outside of yourself and try to view situations from another person's perspective. Your opinion and perspective is not the only one that matters.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:42 PM
 
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Also, just in case you missed my point.

IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU AND YOUR CHILD. It is about the person who was hurt by your child's words and/or actions.
That is your point. We get it. And, you're entitled to your feelings. But, the topic of the OP was how would parents handle their child insulting an adult, remember?
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