How do I get my "used to be potty trained" 5 year old to stop pooping on himself??? (day care, punishing)
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I have a 5 year old boy. He has been potty trained for 2 years now. In the past few months he has been pooping in his pants, literally every day sometimes more than once. It seems he is doing this on purpose? But why? He gets in trouble, ive tried everything from taking away toys, ipad, tv, etc. I even quit my job to stay home with him to try and break this nasty habbit. I also tried to embarrass him with it. I just dont know what to do anymore. Im open to all suggestions. He starts kindergarden in 2 months, and would really to break him of this before then. Please help me.
Buy him diapers. Put it on him. Of course he's going to throw a fit, and you just remind him that his behavior is not big boy behavior and babies poop in their pants, and that babies need diapers. He'll probably stop after just 2 diapers. You can't tell him you'll do as it's just an open threat. You have to actually do it.
And since it's summer, remind him that kids that aren't potty trained can't go swimming without a swim diaper...
I assume you've asked him about his behavior - what is his response? Have you tried timed bathroom visits? Do these "accidents" occur at certain times of the day or night? Is he allergic to any foods which might cause diarrhea? Or does he just get too focused on activities to remember to answer nature's call?
If you've checked out all these possibilities, is there even a remote possibility that he is being sexually abused? Such behavior is not uncommon with children who are thus victimized - they try to make themselves repulsive to the abuser.
Take him to the pediatrician, after you have a private talk with the doctor yourself to give him a heads-up about your son's problem.
If this is a real post - the first response to it indicated that it might not be - I hope you'll follow these suggestions.
This happens with kids sometimes. In some cases it's an internal problem, so punishing him is only going to make him miserable and is rather cruel. My friend went through this with her child, and it involved getting her a special watch to remind her to go sit on the toilet at regular intervals until her bowels were "retrained."
This also happens sometimes if a child is being sexually molested.
This happened to my friend's son when he started kindergarten. Totally out of the blue. Punishing him isn't the answer. Take him to the pediatrician to make sure nothing is wrong. I feel your frustration.
This happens with kids sometimes. In some cases it's an internal problem, so punishing him is only going to make him miserable and is rather cruel. My friend went through this with her child, and it involved getting her a special watch to remind her to go sit on the toilet at regular intervals until her bowels were "retrained."
This also happens sometimes if a child is being sexually molested.
Encopresis. Look it up. It's a medical condition. Fixed with medicine, namely laxatives and miralax. Punishing and embarrassing makes it worse. Stop that at once unless you want bigger bathroom problems. Treat the medical issue and it will resolve.
I have a 5 year old boy. He has been potty trained for 2 years now. In the past few months he has been pooping in his pants, literally every day sometimes more than once. It seems he is doing this on purpose? But why? He gets in trouble, ive tried everything from taking away toys, ipad, tv, etc. I even quit my job to stay home with him to try and break this nasty habbit. I also tried to embarrass him with it. I just dont know what to do anymore. Im open to all suggestions. He starts kindergarden in 2 months, and would really to break him of this before then. Please help me.
In my experience, changes in behavior this drastic are because he is dealing with something he doesn't understand.
Not to scare you, but my niece started wetting the bed at 9-10 so my sister took her to the Doc. He said she had an incontinence issue and prescribed medicine. Months later my sister caught her husband having inappropriate relations with my niece. He went to jail and after a year of counseling, the bed wetting stopped.
However, there is a condition called Encopresis that is typically caused by constipation so that the child fears pooping (because of the strain/pain) so they hold it as long as possible... resulting in it coming out on it's own.
Try talking to him about why this happens. I would look at his stool to see what state it is in. If it is normal stool (brown, shaped like a hot dog, and does not float) then likely it is a psychological issue. If his stool is other colors, floats, or is hard then you should probably go to the Doc.
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