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Old 01-25-2009, 07:53 PM
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Hello, I found this thread to be very informative and helpful. May I ask how it has been for your daughter since your last post of June 2008 (I hope I do have that correct)? I am contemplating moving. I have a 14 yr old son who wants to move and an 11 yr old daughter who does not. My children are important to me of course, but I need my happiness and the overall family happiness in order to help them be happy. It is just us three, no dad in the picture, so this is a difficult decision for me, as I am questioning myself a great deal over this! Thanks for an update.
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Old 02-02-2009, 10:51 AM
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I am in this situation now. I think its going to disturb the two teens still here with me. Oldest at college and thrilled for the move because it is from a small town with no opportunities and going to San Fracisco. I have raised my 3 kids alone for 12 years and financially have to make this move. I realize I have to leave my other 2 remaining kids with their Father whom they barely know. I hope it will forge a better relationship with him and his wife and 2 kids. I try not to judge myself for this decision nor him for our poor relationship with each other. My kids are stressed to live with him but I think they will adapt. I feel guilty but I have put myself at a financial disadvantage by staying here and I must make this move. It is tough knowing my son the youngest will graduate HS in 3 years -so close yet when you are in a bad financial situation with limited time to start over - you have to go for it. I was on this site searching for answers and to see if anyone else had experienced anything close to this situation. There are numerous reasons for the move at this time - but it is not for a relationship. It is something about myself, my soul needs this move. I am so stressed from raising the kids and the financial hardship I am like a sinking ship. I am so torn because I am so close to my kids and they think of their dad is like visiting a distant family member. I do not have ties in this community, nor family nearby. all 4 of my siblings left the area a long time ago for the same reason I am leaving now. My 17 yr old could get her GED and relocate with me, take a year to familiarize herself and not have to start over at new HS. again my son 15 has 3 more years and I see him as being able to adapt to living with father - tho not happy about it. I havent even told him yet. I am trying to work with the mortgage co. so I dont have to go into bankruptcy or foreclosure. I may end up having a Short sale but again it would take to o long to get into all this. I have tried my hand at numerous jobs around here but they do not pay enough for my bills and house etc. At 52 I am now frightened for my future and think I must start over now or I could really be out on the street in 3 years. When all said and done my kids would be young and beginning new lives and I would be almost 56 and broke, I want to say dead broke...Thanks for any responses. P
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