Parents who do their kids' homework (weight, activity, genius, child)
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Ever walk into an elementary school science fair? It is immediately evident which projects were done by parents.
I have my own career, I am way to tired to do my kids homework, that is their job.
What always irked me was the "parent" projects that won awards while the true "student" projects did not. That one always ticked me off.
Ever walk into an elementary school science fair? It is immediately evident which projects were done by parents.
I have my own career, I am way to tired to do my kids homework, that is their job.
What always irked me was the "parent" projects that won awards while the true "student" projects did not. That one always ticked me off.
It's infuriating, moreso even than the Pinewood Derby. Grrrrrr. Back to the OP's point, though, it only hurts the kid when parents do the homework. We always checked homework, particularly math, but our method was to tell the child how many problems were incorrect and then task them with figuring out which ones.
Yeah, I'm not sure what the point of "helping" a kid with a project like that (big or small) would be.
Aren't these things assigned to help kids develop basic skills, like drawing and cutting things with scissors and finishing things before a deadline? (That deadline thing still shows up thirty years later in job interviews!) Why get in the way of that?
I'd rather let my kid draw a typically ugly kid picture and then end up with something I can hang on the refridgerator because it's a memento of my kid's precious childhood. I don't think I could become sentimentally attached to a collage that I made myself, even if I wrote my kid's name on it.
I agree. It is the child's assignment they need to do the work.
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Originally Posted by mamacatnv
Ever walk into an elementary school science fair? It is immediately evident which projects were done by parents.
I have my own career, I am way to tired to do my kids homework, that is their job.
What always irked me was the "parent" projects that won awards while the true "student" projects did not. That one always ticked me off.
In the schools that my children attended the "parent projects" did not win the awards because the child had to stand next to the project and answer questions about it. Often if it looked like the parent did the research or the drawing pr the layout the judges asked very point blank questions about what exact;y did the child do by themselves as well as detailed questions about the research, conclusions, etc.
I honestly have never even seen my youngest kid's homework before it was done. My husband has helped him with a couple of math problems before, but we only see it when it comes back in a graded packet.
My oldest two graduated HS in May, and, unless one of them asked me to print out an essay for them, I literally NEVER saw any of their HS schoolwork.
Have to admit I was so guilty of this with my first child. Something seemed diffierent about her and felt sorry that things were so hard for her. By the second grade we did find out she had a terrible time seeing as the teacher recommended her eyes be checked. She came back with a all okey and the same teacher did it again. This time we changed eye drs. This dr told me without an exam he could tell she couldn't see just looking at shape of her cornea and had me look at her from the side. Cornea shaped like a football. He then checked her eyes, fit her for glasses and told me he was pretty sure who the original diagnosis came from. The child blossomed once she could see.
What's even sadder is when the first grade homework in my wife's class comes back in the parent's handwriting - and there are a lot of mistakes.
Yes, it happens...
I have to write for my daughter if there is any lengthy writing because of her dyslexia. Its part of her learning plan so its all fine. But I still only write down her answers, including wrong answers (unless its work her teacher wants us to correct at home, then we rework the problem)
I might be the worst parent EVER but I do not help my kids with their homework/projects. Mind you, they need me to explain something, they need me to clarify some information and/or provide materials? SURE! Aside from that, nop. Do your own stuff, my kids have turned in some HORRIBLE looking projects but they made them themselves and they are very proud to show their (horrible) work.
like the poster above said, most parent do it because they are worried how they look in front of the teachers/parents. I do not. I want my child to learn, for that they need trial and error.
Does "help my kid with their homework" really mean the same thing as "do their homework for them" these days?
I was on another forum and proudly stated that I helped my Kindergartener with her homework every night, and I thought that parents who didn't were lazy. Then I got lectured how I shouldn't do my kid's homework for them. But I don't do homework FOR my kids, I'm emphatically against it. My child was also one of the only kids in her class to turn in the glue and glitter covered adorable mess for her paper doll assignment, instead of the obviously parentally made "Football Player" doll complete with local college team logo, football helmet, and accompanying cheerleader.
When I think of "help my child with their homework", I think of teaching them to organize their homework, teaching them to figure out what they need to do and how to plan it, provide them with a quiet space and all their materials, remind them to write their name on the paper, check the answers, let the child know when there is an answer on the page they need to look again at, teach them how to recheck their work and fix their mistakes on their own, teach them any concepts they don't quite get until they can get it on their own, get manipulatives, flash cards, iPad apps, and workbooks as necessary for extra practice, set up online spelling practice websites, quiz them on spelling words, on test reviews, incorporate what they are learning in school into family activities and outings, keep open lines of communication with the teacher on my child's progress and difficulties, etc. Basically do everything a teacher, tutor, or study partner would do, while always making sure that the child does her own actual work.
If this isn't "helping with homework", what is it? Is there a new name for this?
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