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Old 09-08-2015, 05:23 AM
 
Location: East Coast
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How old was this kid?
I'd be sad if a three year old actually gave a crap.
As long as he's had hair, his mother has kept it long, and it looks awful. The mother has occasionally mentioned incidents where waiters, etc. have thought he's a girl -- not that they were trying to be mean, just saying, "her" or "she" in reference to him, etc. This was going on when the kid was as old as 10,11, 12 years old.

People also thought he was a girl when he was 3, 4 years old, but I don't know if he had a reaction to it. It's been mentioned that he's been upset when this has happened while he's been older.

Seems like an easy fix to me, but again, it's not my place to say anything.
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Old 09-08-2015, 06:02 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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What do you all think?
How does grandma handle serious issues? Whats amazing, she's probably a child of the 60s?
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Old 09-08-2015, 08:27 AM
 
Location: Hyrule
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She's old, and her attitude is just reflecting that. Just let her know that it's old fashion thinking to think boys have short hair, girls have long hair. Both can now have either. Let her know her attitude dates her, but does not reflect society any longer. She would probably be shocked to know that men can wear skirts now as well. lol
My mother is in her 80's and the younger generations also give her pause. I think that's just the way it goes. Hopefully the mother is understanding yet strong on issues regarding her 21st century children.
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Old 09-08-2015, 09:00 AM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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I don't get the long hair deal. I grew up on the sand and lots of boys had long hair, and I am 50 years old. Are you saying that as soon as you leave the beach long hair becomes a problem? My brother is in the music business and lots of guys have long hair. My brother used to but sadly for him, he went bald. He is still in the music business but wears a cowboy hat to cover up his head. I have another brother that is a couple years younger and his hair is long. He also wears a hat though because he lost the hair on top of his head. I like my hair short, funny because I still have a full head of hair and have not had it long since I was in high school. Even in high school my hair only went to my shoulders.

One of the guys I work with, he is 38 years old. He never cut his hair when he was a kid. It used to be down past his belt. He is an old local rocker as well. Kind of the style.
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Old 09-08-2015, 09:23 AM
 
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I see long hair on a lot of men and boys to die for.

Long, short, shaved off, it is only hair and I think it is a personal choice.

I do admit that I cried the first time my only son and my grandsons and great grandsons had their first haircuts..seemed it was a milestone out of babyhood.
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Old 09-08-2015, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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I was just thinking about this. It is OK for a girl to have short hair. It is OK for a girl to have long hair. It is OK for a girl to have shoulder length hair. Girls have the freedom to have hair anywhere they want it. Some girls have hair down to there and some have it even longer than that.

Why is it OK for girls to have a choice and boys can not have a choice? What I mean in general is , if the parent is ok with it and the boy wants it why should anyone else including a school have a problem with it? Do they mandate how long hair can be in school? If they do are they telling the girls how long their hair can be? If they are saying that boys hair has to be short are they also saying that girls hair has to be long?
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Old 09-08-2015, 07:03 PM
 
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Old 09-08-2015, 07:04 PM
 
Location: here
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This just sounds like an older person who isn't aware that long hair on boys is socially acceptable these days. Tell her it's in style. The end.
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Old 09-09-2015, 08:54 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Most kids at 3 to 5 do care. They are starting to identify themselves as part of the boy or girl world. My son at five did not have long hair, but he had a sweet face and when he wore his winter jacket and hood, random strangers would say, "what a pretty girl." He kicked one lady who said that and said "I'm a boy!"

Of course, long hair does not have to play into this and I would say let a child alone if he is fine with his long hair.

https://www.healthychildren.org/Engl...-Children.aspx
I have a 3 year old.
I meet them all the time.
I spend tons of time daily in the company of 3 year olds.

My son knows boys are boys and girls are girls (and why).

He does not give two craps about his hair. None of them do. They like to pick their shirts. They don't like being called babies. But they do not. Care. About their hair.

That is something adults put in their heads. Like most neurotic behavior.
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Old 09-09-2015, 08:56 PM
 
Location: Texas
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As long as he's had hair, his mother has kept it long, and it looks awful. The mother has occasionally mentioned incidents where waiters, etc. have thought he's a girl -- not that they were trying to be mean, just saying, "her" or "she" in reference to him, etc. This was going on when the kid was as old as 10,11, 12 years old.

People also thought he was a girl when he was 3, 4 years old, but I don't know if he had a reaction to it. It's been mentioned that he's been upset when this has happened while he's been older.

Seems like an easy fix to me, but again, it's not my place to say anything.
Yeah, the unkempt part would bother me.

Also, I would freaking let a 10 year old pick his haircut.
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