Did you ever decide you were "too old" to have kids and drop plans for having them?
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Well if you want to pull out "statistics" then the 66 year old guy dying is an outlier. Average life expectancy of a man is what..... 78?
If someone wants to have a cutoff date then so be it, but you can't live in your fears and by "what ifs". That 15 year old wouldn't even be here if the guy thought he was too old in the first place.
Well if you want to pull out "statistics" then the 66 year old guy dying is an outlier. Average life expectancy of a man is what..... 78?
Yes, that's on the younger side. But what I was trying to address with that anecdote was the bizarre comment that you're better off losing a parent when you're younger and not older because you're not as attached.
The age of the woman is far more important, there are genuine health risks for both mother and child if the mother is older. As far as the man goes its just a matter of opinion. There are pros to being an older father, more patience, more financial resources are a couple. However a young man has far more energy to parent, and he will send them off on their own when he is in his early to mid forties leaving a lot of years to be an empty nester. I think either way has its pros and cons. Are you too old at 40??? Only if you think you are. Millions of people do it every year. Being you are 30 you have a few years to think on it.
While the women's age is much more of a consideration, advanced paternal age is positively correlated with autism.
I'm almost 38 and I have an almost-15-year-old and a 12-year-old. I feel too old to have a new baby. I'm in the home stretch with my kids and I do not want to start over with nursing and not sleeping and tantrums and potty training. That said, I've always felt that our family would be completed through adoption. Once my youngest is an adult, I'd love to adopt a teenager through foster care. Something like that is always an option for people who feel too old to have babies after 35/40/45/whatever.
I'm almost 38 and I have an almost-15-year-old and a 12-year-old. I feel too old to have a new baby.
I think it's too old if you've already done it once. Not if you don't know the hell of months of sleepless nights. I was 40 when my son was born and we're both glad we're older parents. We've done the me me me years and our lives were what we wanted them to be already when he was born. And as someone else mentioned I had years at my career so I really enjoy these years with him.
I know a few people who have children my son's age and other kids in high school or college. That always amazes me. I can see having them young or having them "old" but I couldn't have done both!!
Yes, the sense that we waited too long and are now too old factored into our decision not to have children. (My husband is 56 and I am 45.) When a relative who is my age had an unexpected post-natal complication that almost killed her last year following an uneventful pregnancy and delivery, I knew it was probably for the best that I had not risked a late in life birth. (Mom and baby are perfectly healthy and happy one year later, thankfully.)
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