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Old 01-31-2008, 01:20 PM
 
Location: Tennessee/Michigan
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"He asked me if I was going to breast-feed, and I said yes, and he said, 'Well, you can't do that here.'"

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Old 01-31-2008, 06:18 PM
 
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I'm not opposed to breast feeding in public but because it is so controversial and might offend someone, I probably wouldn't recommend it. I'm sure there are circumstances where it is necessary and that's fine too.

I'm a secretary and once a woman came in carrying a child. A big child. He had to be at least 3 or so and really long. It was all she could do hold him on her hip. She was talking to me and without missing a beat, pulled up her shirt and gave him her breast. I couldn't believe it. But it didn't offend me.
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Old 01-31-2008, 06:21 PM
 
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I nursed both of my children until they were two. Many times we nursed in public. As long as you keep covered(as best as you can) it should not offend anyone. Breastfeeding is the most natural thing a mother can do, how can someone say when and where they can do it? Absurd!!
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Old 01-31-2008, 07:47 PM
 
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This is what amuses me as a nursing mother. I could be in the mall, discreetly nursing my baby, and somebody would inevitably say something or give me "a look", but the 14 year old prostitot walking around wearing shorts that barely cover her butt and a push-up bra she just bought at Victoria's Secret with her allowance barely raises an eyebrow. "What a wonderful world."
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Old 01-31-2008, 08:33 PM
 
Location: Utah
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I nursed both of my children for close to two years. (at the time, I was one of those painintheasszealots who thought every new mom who didn't give a try was negligent )

I am offended when I here someone opposed to public nursing. I think that they do not have experience with it in their lives, and are putting their foot in their mouth without giving it a real thought.

With that said, if you are publicly nursing a child older than a year and a half-ish, I'm less offended for you.
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Old 01-31-2008, 10:34 PM
 
Location: Lehigh Valley
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I'm not opposed to breast feeding in public but because it is so controversial and might offend someone, I probably wouldn't recommend it. I'm sure there are circumstances where it is necessary and that's fine too.
You wouldn'd recommend it? So what do you recommend a mother does when her child is hungry - which for a baby is quite often, I might add.

Nursing in public is controversial? That makes me laugh - and not in a good way. I nursed all three of my kids for 18 months a piece, and obviously did it in public often. I can honestly tell you that I never got dirty looks or heard nasty comments. In fact, it was quite the opposite - I would get moms who came over telling me how great it was that I was nursing, etc. Truly though, I could without that attention as well, but whatever.

Our society is just whacked - tramp stamps and things hangin out all over town, but a baby eating is problematic - crazy!
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Old 02-01-2008, 09:17 AM
 
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I, too, was a public nursing mother. I nursed my son for 12 months and my daughter for 21 months. I stopped nursing her in public after about 12 months because she was too keen on looking around and would flash my boobage to everyone. That wouldn't be cool.
When I first starting nursing my son in public, I would go to a restroom to do it. Then one day, as I sat in a very nasty restroom feeding him I thought, "I don't eat in restrooms, why does he have to?" After that, I was a public nurser. If you don't like it....DON'T LOOK! You would REALLY have to search around me to even see what I was doing.
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Old 02-01-2008, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Oz
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I have no problem with public breastfeeding. What I find annoying is the occasional in-your-face breastfeeding woman who is obviously looking to cause a ruckus by letting their goods hang out for all to see.

Feed your kid, that's fine. But the boob he's not using -- we don't need to see that hanging out and flopping around, or to hear you yapping at somebody for "staring" when you're obviously trying to get negative attention.
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Old 02-01-2008, 10:20 AM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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Nursing in public is a mother's choice. Others can choose not to look if it bothers them. A nursing mother has no business complaining if someone stares at them. If that bothers you, then go somewhere private. If you do anything in public you are presenting that action for people to see and stare at if they choose.

However in this case, the mother was in someone else's restaurant. They can choose what they will allow and what they will not. I do not allow smoking in my house. Is that any different?
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Old 02-01-2008, 10:31 AM
 
Location: Oz
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Nursing in public is a mother's choice. Others can choose not to look if it bothers them. A nursing mother has no business complaining if someone stares at them. If that bothers you, then go somewhere private. If you do anything in public you are presenting that action for people to see and stare at if they choose.

However in this case, the mother was in someone else's restaurant. They can choose what they will allow and what they will not. I do not allow smoking in my house. Is that any different?
The restaurant cannot choose in this instance. It is state law there that a woman is legally allowed to breastfeed in any public place.
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