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Old 12-17-2015, 07:11 PM
 
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Have you ever thought about how many ornaments, handpainted coffee mugs, knicknacks a teacher accumulates over the course of a career? Would you want all that stuff collecting in your house? Why not teach kids to give gifts that consider the gift recipient first, rather than the needs of the giver?
Agreed. That's why I give edible gifts, gift cards, and a personalized card to teachers. I refuse to contribute to anyone's clutter. Even with the edible gifts, if it's something they don't eat, it's the thought that counts (they know we thought of them) and they can leave it in the break room for others.
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Old 12-17-2015, 07:30 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Ok so how is your child going to feel when all the other kids give the teacher a gift, and she doesn't? You should buy a $10. gift, wrap it nicely, and let your daughter give it to the teacher.
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Old 12-17-2015, 07:41 PM
 
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How would you feel if you were the only person at work who didn't get a gift? Apply that here.


(Hint: be classy for your kid's sake. They are always watching you.)
With 30 kids in a class, do you think there is a teacher who doesn't get anything? I don't.
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Old 12-17-2015, 07:47 PM
 
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I put a tray of cookies in the break room this year instead of giving gifts to their specific teachers. I do truly appreciate what teachers do, and I let them know that, but there are other ways to show it than giving Christmas gifts. If everyone gives cookies or candy, every teacher would weigh 300 lbs. I noticed a teacher regifting ornaments one year. I'm sure they appreciate the thought, but they don't need more stuff.

I have given gifts in the past, but I wouldn't donate $25 for a teacher I didn't even like.
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Old 12-17-2015, 09:07 PM
 
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Have you ever thought about how many ornaments, handpainted coffee mugs, knicknacks a teacher accumulates over the course of a career? Would you want all that stuff collecting in your house? Why not teach kids to give gifts that consider the gift recipient first, rather than the needs of the giver?
Because I am not giving the gift. My kid spends most of their day with this person and usually have great affection for them. My kids aren't thinking about how many kids they have over their lifetime as a teacher. They are thinking about giving them something from the heart. I don't give a crap if the teacher tosses it, cherishes it or uses it for target practice. Both me and their teachers are charged with raising good human beings. My kids can give a gift that is from their own heart. The teacher comes across grateful. All is well

Btw I happened to stop in to my son's first grade class 2 years later. The teacher still had a piece of his ceramic art on the wall. My husband works with a lot of people, helping them. He gets a thank you note from time to time. He keeps them all. But one was really personal to him. He framed it.

ETA this is a good argument for why teacher should give a wish list. Because it if showed it to my kids, they would run with it. If not, they have to pick up what they can, and choose from what they know.

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Old 12-17-2015, 09:08 PM
 
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Agreed. That's why I give edible gifts, gift cards, and a personalized card to teachers. I refuse to contribute to anyone's clutter. Even with the edible gifts, if it's something they don't eat, it's the thought that counts (they know we thought of them) and they can leave it in the break room for others.
Last time we gave an edible gift the teacher was diabetic and couldn't eat it.
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Old 12-17-2015, 09:10 PM
 
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You know what? You teachers who poopoo gifts from your students are ungrateful jerks! They love you. They think of you as an important people in their lives. They love Christmas and want to include you in their lives.

You don't have to keep it. Frame it. Or even write a freaking thank you card. Just be the person our kids think you are. Be gracious. Not greedy. Be kind, not grinchy. Enjoy that your student (or their parent)thinks well enough to add you to their gift list.

Good lord. Some people.
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Old 12-17-2015, 09:14 PM
 
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I have never seen such a bunch of ungrateful people as the "teachers" who have chimed in. Do you ever think of your student? Or is it all about you?
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Old 12-17-2015, 09:28 PM
 
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I have never seen such a bunch of ungrateful people as the "teachers" who have chimed in. Do you ever think of your student? Or is it all about you?
I don't blame the teachers. My sister has taught for years, and spends plenty of her own money at it. She doesn't want another mug, or ornament, or bath set. Does she thank the children, of course! But if parents are going to give a gift, put some thought into it, and give them something useful, either for themselves, or their classroom.

Teachers have families too. They want to put their own children's ornaments on the tree.
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Old 12-17-2015, 09:51 PM
 
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I don't blame the teachers. My sister has taught for years, and spends plenty of her own money at it. She doesn't want another mug, or ornament, or bath set. Does she thank the children, of course! But if parents are going to give a gift, put some thought into it, and give them something useful, either for themselves, or their classroom.

Teachers have families too. They want to put their own children's ornaments on the tree.
Well tough for her. And them. If they don't want gifts, say so. But understand if you spend 6 hours a day with a kid (who doesn't realize they are one of a thousand) they might want to honer you over the holidays. Shut up and suck it up. Oh poor you. You got lots off gifts. Boo hoo.
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