Would you give Christmas gift to a teacher you don't like? (teaching, baby)
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Yes? No? If you truly feel like this person is just a crappy teacher and she/he has been rude to you in the past and your child, do you look past it and give a gift bc it's the "season of giving"? Do it bc you don't want your child to know you don't like their teacher.
DD is in Pre-K. I got sent home a letter asking for $25 per student for a class collection for a gift. No clue who this mother is either. I'm really not a fan of class collections to begin with and when DH saw this, he said he did not want to contribute and I sort of feel the same way. After a particular incident last week, I even thought for a minute of not buying her anything, let alone contributing the $25. The assistant teacher, who is nice and does more for DD then I've seen the teacher do, is sick and has been out for weeks, so not sure when or if I can give her a gift. And it was going to be something small, like some candy. Last year dd's school had the most caring, nurturing staff around. I didn't think twice about not gifting them for XMas and end of the year. I did for both and wrote a nice hand written note both to the teacher, assistant and director. This school and teacher is the COMPLETE opposite.
So WWYD? Contribute to collection? Don't contribute and give a cheap/small gift? Or bc you think she's crappy, give nothing? What do I do about the assistant since she won't even be there.
Yeah, I wouldn't contribute. I got an email for collection too. I don't have that much money right now, so even though I really like her teacher I didn't contribute and got her a gift on our own. My daughter decorated it and drew her own card. Honestly I think it's more personable and it was definitely much cheaper!
Just have your daughter draw her a card. No money spent, but she still acknowledges the holiday. Get something for the assistant and just give it to her after break.
$25 and in pre-K?
No way, even if I loved the teacher!
That's pretty steep. My kids were in preschool only a few years ago and they did collections and asked for $5-10 per family. It supposed to be a nice gesture, not diamond earrings. I think the mom is charge is over doing it. I did spend about that much on our loved teachers, even preschool. But not in a cash drive.
Ok...so in this case, no I wouldn't contribute. Or give only a few bucks. Because it isn't a gift coming from the child. Likely they know nothing of it.
However, my daughter had a TERRIBLE kinder teacher. She was critical, rude, unhelpful, self absorbed and awful at actual teaching. I could go on. Honestly, I have 4 kids and have only had a small handful of terrible teachers for them. She takes spot #1. But comes Christmas time, my daughter wanted to buy and give her a gift. We had done it together for her preschool teachers (she started preschool at age 2 so she was used to shopping and gifting her teachers). My daughter even liked that witch of a teacher. So I bit my tongue, painted a smile on, and took my daughter out to buy her teacher a gift. She chose to go to a candy store and picked a $9 box of chocolate. I kind of wanted to add a mean note. I didn't. But...
So in the case of the kid wanting to get a gift for their teacher a gift, even if I hated them, I would go along. A cash grab "well it just slipped my mind...it's such a busy time of year".
Omg I actually remembered something. In preschool the room mom was doing a cash round up for a teacher and her asst teacher for the end of the year gift. I had liked the teacher until the end of the year. I found out she was talking c*ap about me. She was also being oddly over involved with my decision about what school my kid was going to (she wanted me to choose a public school but I chose a private school and she actually yelled at me). I was so mad, I didn't want to give anything. So I ignored the emails and just sort of passed off the comments when the room mom mentioned it to me.
So mid summer I got a text. "Hey, I covered your part of the gift to the teacher. Just get the cash to me when you can".
Skip the collection and buy your own gift for whomever you like.
I agree.
I taught in an upper middle class suburb and it was extremely rare that they ever did whole class collections for gifts for any teacher in my building. The very few times it was for something like a baby shower gift from the whole class and then it was something like " suggested gift $5" or "donate what you want to give".
$25 each ? ! ? ! Wow, that must be some ritzy district!
I am a teacher. Please don't buy us gifts. Thanks.
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