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Old 12-19-2015, 01:49 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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I love this story about happiness and optimism.
Life is Good founders say this question inspired their business - Business Insider

Similarly, when my son is old enough, he will have three daily questions at dinner, because I want him looking for the positive, growing, and helping daily. :

1. What was your favorite part of today?
(Like the article above, to get him constantly looking for the good around him.)

2. What is something you learned or achieved today?
(This can be academic or physical, to keep him searching for ways to learn and grow.)

3. How did you help someone today?
(To encourage him to look for everyday opportunities to make the world a better place.)

Since all of those questions are about today (which will ultimately get him to think about tomorrow because he'll learn to expect that I'm going to ask them daily), I also want him thinking about the future. So, for fun to see how his answer evolves over the years, I thought about asking a fourth question about his hopes for tomorrow / the future (I'm sure when he's 3 he'll say his goal is to go to Disney Land or drive a dump truck lol), to teach him to think long term and plan so he can reach his goals. But I haven't fully flushed that one out yet.

If you do the same in your home, what are some of your questions (or even mantras) to your children?
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Old 12-19-2015, 03:20 PM
 
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I used to ask what the best and worst part of their day was. Usually for the worst, they would say "well it was t really the worst, but I didn't like _____". Just that simple question got them to tell me all about their day. My mom friends couldn't believe how much my kids told me about their day.

They are 9 and 10 now and don't like those questions anymore. So I am trying to shake things up. "Did you have any interesting conversations today?" Sometimes gets a good response. "What was on your work plan" sometimes get a reply. Asking specifics about art class, or PE helps them talk.

But something about the Tweens, they sometimes just don't want to talk about their day. I allow them to say they would rather not talk about their day and I don't ask anymore.

I think because I never did that blanket "how was your day?" Question, they talk to me more about their days then a lot of kids (or so I am told by other parents). But as they are getting older, it's more on their terms.
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Old 12-19-2015, 05:22 PM
 
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Why did you think it was a good idea to lock your little brother in the shed?

Did you break anything else?

When did you get permission to do that?

Why should I care that everyone else does it?

Do you expect me to believe that?

Where are your parents?
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Old 12-19-2015, 08:21 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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Why did you think it was a good idea to lock your little brother in the shed?

Did you break anything else?

When did you get permission to do that?

Why should I care that everyone else does it?

Do you expect me to believe that?

Where are your parents?
I'm totally adding these to my list. Thanks!!

(P.S. This is easily the best post on all of C-D. lol)
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