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Old 12-22-2015, 11:17 AM
 
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How do you think the teacher feels? Her and her husband saved up for a long time to give these kids an experience and now not only is all THEIR money going to waste

So, you think she and her husband don't know how babies are made? THEY caused the situation, I have no sympathy for them.

And wait til April? When the entire thing needs to be paid in full by March 11th?
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Old 12-22-2015, 11:18 AM
 
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Because it is a school trip, right?
Your title states : "out of state school trip"
And you said:


So, since it is a school trip, the school would have to make sure another teacher chaperoned. If the school does not provide/cannot find another chaperone for this trip, the trip will be cancelled and you will get your money back.
You're right, I called it a school trip. It's not. It was stated very clearly to all of us, and made very clear that the school is not associated with this in any way, when we signed up
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Old 12-22-2015, 11:20 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Honestly I think you are overreacting. This trip isn't until summer, so at least six months away. That is more than enough time to find a new chaperone for the trip and I guarantee they will properly notify you. I'm sure another teacher would love to step in and I doubt the school will let just any teacher go. It would be someone who has been with the school for several years that the faculty knows well and trusts.

And the pregnant teacher has a right to tell or not the whoever she wants, whenever she wants in whatever order she deems fit. There are a hundred reasons why someone might need to cancel attending/chaperoning a preplanned school function and they are none of your business.
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No one, for any reason, is required to announce their pregnancy before they are ready. She's not even 3 months along. That's standard time to announce. Maybe they've lost a baby in the past. Maybe it is a high risk pregnancy. I understand wanting an answer soon, but it is selfish to have expected one before now.

If the teacher was trying to get pregnant I suspect that she and her husband have already discussed what they would do if that happened before the trip. I would not be surprised if they already had back-up plans in place and are just firming up those plans before they inform the parents.


BTW, at least they and you have many months to plan. if something happened suddenly like a severe illness or death in the family they could have just days to make alternative plans.


I know that you keep saying that you are not complaining because she is pregnant, but it sounds like you really are upset. That reminds me of the parent of a special education student who seriously believed, and told me and other school staff, that special education teachers should be forbidden by law to have children of their own, because if special education teachers were allowed to have their own children they could not spend every single second of every single day focusing on their students (so having children would be unfair to their students and their parents).
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Old 12-22-2015, 11:25 AM
 
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Actually, I was a little peeved by the lack of consideration I felt she showed but after posting the question here, and realizing what a bad position she is potentially putting all of us in, when she has known (but denied it) more than a month ago... I got a bit more upset.

I called the tour company though and got my answers. Worst case for us, we'll be out a few hundred dollars and my son won't have gotten anything for Christmas this year other than a few stocking stuffers.
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Old 12-22-2015, 11:34 AM
 
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This is why everyone should always buy trip insurance. EVERYTIME.

You're an adult you could have (and should have) bought trip insurance especially since it was made clear to you that this trip was non-refundable or transferable.

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Old 12-22-2015, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Actually, I was a little peeved by the lack of consideration I felt she showed but after posting the question here, and realizing what a bad position she is potentially putting all of us in, when she has known (but denied it) more than a month ago... I got a bit more upset.

I called the tour company though and got my answers. Worst case for us, we'll be out a few hundred dollars and my son won't have gotten anything for Christmas this year other than a few stocking stuffers.

Calm down, settle down and back off.


You have no idea what she was doing for the last month. She could have been checking around looking for a suitable replacement chaperone or she could have been going to specialists because she was in danger of having a miscarriage or any number of things. Would you have preferred that she told every parent as soon as the pee stick turned pink/had a plus sign and then had to face the pain of every student and parent in the community knowing her private business if she had an early miscarriage and death of her unborn child?


Perhaps, it was different when your children were in the womb but today, at least among people that I knew and that my adult children know, most people do not tell anyone for the first three months.


Maybe the rumor at school started because someone at school saw her throwing up due to morning sickness and jumped to the conclusion that she was pregnant. IMHO, the teacher was under no obligation to confirm a pregnancy because of a nosy "busy body" and it was wrong for someone to "out" her pregnancy on face book, too.


BTW, are the other parents as angry at her & her husband as you are? If I was facing such an angry mob I would be rather upset at myself. I would be kicking myself for going out of my way to plan an educational trip for the children of such a group of inconsiderate, selfish people who are thinking only of themselves and their family needs.

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Old 12-22-2015, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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She's due early June. The sonogram she posted says 11 weeks, dated December 10th. Someone knew about November 17th, when son came home from an event with the rumor. (I checked my calendar for the date of that event) So, she told SOMEONE in the school, and DENIED it.

Specifically, my concern is that if they cannot find a chaperone, I will be out of pocket $2k. I would go, but I'm having surgery in April. My husband will not be able to take the time off work, as he won't have a year at his current job until late July.
When you have a plethora of people telling you that you are overreacting, perhaps listen? Are you reading what you wrote? She told someone, that someone may be a dear friend. May be her boss because she was having complications. You don't know. Like many have said it could be anything that would stop a chaperon from going. She isn't doing anything wrong. Chill.
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Old 12-22-2015, 12:10 PM
 
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Someone else didn't out her after all

Looks like they posted it themselves last night. And that the "rumor" was started by her older kids. As I wasn't online last night, I missed all that.

You all can keep going and thinking that you are in a majority and that you 5 or 6 people represent a "plethora"... but if it was you, you'd be understandably upset. Or not. I guess maybe I just expect people to act in a more considerate way. Especially "professionals" who work with children.

My bad
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Old 12-22-2015, 12:30 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Someone else didn't out her after all

Looks like they posted it themselves last night. And that the "rumor" was started by her older kids. As I wasn't online last night, I missed all that.

You all can keep going and thinking that you are in a majority and that you 5 or 6 people represent a "plethora"... but if it was you, you'd be understandably upset. Or not. I guess maybe I just expect people to act in a more considerate way. Especially "professionals" who work with children.

My bad

I will put this into perspective for you. When my son was young he attended a language immersion school. Each year the 5th graders went from the Midwest USA to France for three weeks. While the main chaperone/chaperon , one or both of the 5th grade teachers, was always known well in advance (at least a year) the other chaperons were not selected and announced until a few months before the actual trip. You received the name of the homestay family about three or four months before the trip.


NONE of the parents were upset by this, or considered this "late notice".


BTW, my son was 10 years old when he went to France for three weeks with his class.
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Old 12-22-2015, 12:45 PM
 
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I'm a planner and a worrier, so I understand why you are upset. But you are going too far to expect the teacher to announce her pregnancy early for you and to you first. That's just ridiculous. This baby affects the rest of her life. A week of yours is not her first priority.
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