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Old 12-26-2015, 07:47 PM
 
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My 14 year old nephew still has his mom cut his meat. He's a freshman in high school.

My kids are 6/7 and it's half and half. Sometimes I do it and sometimes they do it.
Just to add another side...

When I was 8 I saw many chickens butchered. I had not grown up around it. That night, they tried to feed me one of the chickens. I have sensory issues too. I wasn't able to eat any meat with tendons or fat until I was a late teen. I'd gag. No one cut my meat for me, but if someone handed me a chicken leg, I'd gag just from the sight.

So there are many issues at play.
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Old 12-26-2015, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Charlotte Area
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Just to add another side...

When I was 8 I saw many chickens butchered. I had not grown up around it. That night, they tried to feed me one of the chickens. I have sensory issues too. I wasn't able to eat any meat with tendons or fat until I was a late teen. I'd gag. No one cut my meat for me, but if someone handed me a chicken leg, I'd gag just from the sight.

So there are many issues at play.
There were issues for you but not for him. His mom still fixes a plate for him......
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Old 12-26-2015, 08:11 PM
 
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There were issues for you but not for him. His mom still fixes a plate for him......
I always make a plate for my husband. But we have our reasons. My point was...there might be reasons why she does it. Or she isn't letting go. I don't think we know with such a limited amount of information.

it can be in the normal range. Or it could be a mom over stepping

Even though I my son has motor delays, he would kick me in the shins if I tried to over help him.

Worth thinking about. Lots of parents raising kids with special needs face excessive judgement from family.

Or it could be a hovering mom.

Bottom line, it's really not your business
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Old 12-26-2015, 08:18 PM
 
Location: Charlotte Area
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I always make a plate for my husband. But we have our reasons. My point was...there might be reasons why she does it. Or she isn't letting go. I don't think we know with such a limited amount of information.

He's, it can be in the normal range. Or it could be a mom over stepping

Even though I my son has motor delays, he would kick me in the shins if I tried to over help him.

Worth thinking about. Lots of parents easing kids with special needs face excessive judgement from family.

Or it could be a hovering mom.
Bottom line, it's really not your business
He doesn't have special needs but if he did it would be understandable. His own dad tries to tell her to let him do it. What will he do when he goes to college? It's not doing him any favors...

There comes a time when every child needs to learn things that will help him or her in the world outside of mom and dad's.
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Old 12-26-2015, 08:21 PM
 
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He doesn't have special needs but if he did it would be understandable. His own dad tries to tell her to let him do it. What will he do when he goes to college? It's not doing him any favors...

There comes a time when every child needs to learn things that will help him or her in the world outside of mom and dad's.
Are you the op? If you are, you have two names. I was answering the OP. SO IF YOU ARE THEM...ok. If not, back off and don't make this about you
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Old 12-26-2015, 08:31 PM
 
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Are you the op? If you are, you have two names. I was answering the OP. SO IF YOU ARE THEM...ok. If not, back off and don't make this about you
What the...? This poster shared a similar story as the OP. You brought up chickens!

For the record, at 8 my father was definitely cutting up my meat. I was capable of using a knife, but I had a huge aversion to any fat at all, and if I saw it on my serving, I wouldn't touch it. My father cut it off in an effort to get me to eat.
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Old 12-26-2015, 08:43 PM
 
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What the...? This poster shared a similar story as the OP. You brought up chickens!

For the record, at 8 my father was definitely cutting up my meat. I was capable of using a knife, but I had a huge aversion to any fat at all, and if I saw it on my serving, I wouldn't touch it. My father cut it off in an effort to get me to eat.
I thought I quoted the OP. My bad. Still...people should, stay out of it, really. Maybe it seems like there isn't an issue at play. Rarely my mom cut up meat for me. But even at 14, if she wanted me to actually eat the meat offered, she better cut it up or I won't touch it. Fat, skin, ligaments, etc. I would gag
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Old 12-26-2015, 08:44 PM
 
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And now, I can pull apart a chicken, turkey, ham leg, entire fish. No problem. But that comes with age and distance. If you are not part of the issue, stay out of it.
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Old 12-26-2015, 09:44 PM
 
Location: East of the Sun, West of the Moon
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I started whittling little gnomes and horses at 7 years old. I'm pretty sure most kids can handle a pork chop by that age if their parents teach them.
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Old 12-26-2015, 10:05 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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My 14 year old nephew still has his mom cut his meat. He's a freshman in high school.

I have a mental picture of your nephew on a date or attending prom and his mom is right there, too, so that she can cut his meat.
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