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Old 01-01-2016, 03:45 PM
 
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Some parents are absolutely inconsiderate when it comes to what their kids are doing, I see it all the time. I have actually gone up to a mother at a restaurant and told her that her child was making so much noise it was impossible to eat. Her response was "He's only a baby !" And my response was, "He is acting that way because you are sitting there encouraging him to make all that noise !"

I raised twin Sons, and even at 6 months, I could take them into a restaurant, put them in their little chairs, and they would sit there and eat without making a fuss. Waitresses would come over two and three at a time and say "What have you done to these kids, we have never seen children just sit there so nice and eat quietly !"

It is all in the way you raise them, I was brought up the same way. There is nothing more unpleasant than a misbehaving child, and the parents need to hear it when they are allowing it to go on. This business of "children will be children " is just a lot of BS and an excuse for bad parenting.

Don
Bravo!!!
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Old 01-01-2016, 04:04 PM
 
Location: Kansas
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I would have asked to talk to the manager. The parent/parents should have asked for a doggy bag if they couldn't control their child. It is just that simple. Most cities have mental health clinics that help parents learn how to handle behavior problems and they are on a sliding scale and Medicaid covers such services.

The reason parents continue to do this is because people don't complain. The parents are no better than the children thinking that all the matters is them. Entitlement. That's what they teach. The same kid will be screaming at the restaurant when he is 12 years old.
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Old 01-01-2016, 04:42 PM
 
Location: Oceania
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When you add all this up. Who is at fault here. The parents of the kid, and the restaurant. Both are at fault, not the man who had enough and voiced his comments. The parents should have removed the child from the restaurant, at least until the kid calmed down. Sitting there and not doing anything to the point, that man said what many would have eventually. The restaurant manager should have said something, before it escalated. It is not up to the patrons to deal with this. It is also not part of the menu to tolerate this.




The simple solution would have been as it was in previous generations. You remove the child from the situation until they calm down, or you go home. It was done with our own children, as it was done when we were kids. You go to the car with them, or the bathroom on the premises. Calm them down or again you go home. You do not impose your kids on innocent people out for a meal or shopping. It is disgraceful how some parents, just let kids take over in public now days. We all see this baloney many times when we go out. Many of these parents have no business being parents in the first place.

There have been several stories on the internet, and the news recently about similar situations. One restaurant manager delivered the meal in take out containers to the parents. He did not charge them for the meal, but told them they would have to leave the restaurant. Another was a couple so disgusted by a family's screaming kids and running around. They had the waiter give them a note that said. Thank you for ruining our meal tonight with your
screaming kids. Then they left the restaurant.


There is no reason to feel you have to sit, thru a meal suffering like that.

^^^Classic!
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Old 01-01-2016, 05:00 PM
 
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What is the appropriate response of a parent whose child, while running around a restaurant, runs into a server carrying a tray of hot soup that is spilled on the child?
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Old 01-01-2016, 05:51 PM
 
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The parents should have had the minimal courtesy to take the child outside immediately and, failing that, the staff should have stepped in to immediately tell them that the child could not be permitted to run around, and later that they had to take the screaming child outside.

Everyone should speak up, because otherwise the parents will allow this to happen forever.
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Old 01-01-2016, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Prosper
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What is the appropriate response of a parent whose child, while running around a restaurant, runs into a server carrying a tray of hot soup that is spilled on the child?
Said parent will run over to see their child scalded by hot soup, and rush them to a hospital. On the way, said parent will be searching their phone for lawyers who can sue the restaurant for negligence, and nearly causing several accidents as they concentrate on their phone instead of driving.

Oh, you said "appropriate" response? Parent should apologize profusely, rush their kid out of there to get medical attention, and come to a deep realization that they are a horrible parent who allowed their kid to run amok and get injured severely.

In real life of course, any parent who had a child like this wouldn't have an appropriate response.
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Old 01-02-2016, 12:30 AM
 
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Unruly, improperly supervised children are never welcome on any occasion. By telling the server how uncomfortable you are s/he can possibly move you to a table farther away or in another dining room but s/he must definitely report it to the manager. The manager is the one who is responsible to oust the family - lock, stock, and barrel. I have seen it done.
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Old 01-02-2016, 05:59 AM
 
Location: the Permian Basin
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All parents are different, and they parent differently.
Those people weren't parenting at all. If they had been, the tantrum wouldn't have continued "for a good twenty to thirty minutes."
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Old 01-02-2016, 06:24 AM
 
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As a matter of habit, we usually ask to be seated as far as possible from a table with young children, and also try to go to restaurants at their off times so that it isn't crowded. That said, at times we have also had to endure non-stop kid screaming that can be heard throughout the restaurants. And, it typically goes on and on, with the parents pretty much ignoring it. As a parent, I can usually detect if the screaming is from a kid being over tired and needing a nap (poor baby, take it home so it can rest!), versus a tantrum (geez, take the kid outside and DEAL with it!). Either way, the parents don't seem to be willing or able to deal with it. And, yes, we have complained to the restaurant about it at times.
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Old 01-02-2016, 07:35 AM
 
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What is the appropriate response of a parent whose child, while running around a restaurant, runs into a server carrying a tray of hot soup that is spilled on the child?
The parents would have immediately hired a lawyer to sue the restaurant.
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