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Old 01-04-2016, 08:22 PM
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Please, can we give it a rest with the breasts and the hormones? For one thing, a lot of women cannot breastfeed, so are you saying those women are less suited to raising children? For example, I wasn't breastfed because I was too sick to come home for a few weeks and my mom stopped making milk in the interim.

For another thing, oxytocin is just something that happens at the drop of a hat with humans. DOGS cause oxytocin generation in humans (and generate some of their own when in contact with us). Women may get somewhat more of an oxytocin surge - that was just a biological necessity in prehistoric times when a mother's milk was the only thing keeping a kid alive - but I'll just venture to say having seen the visceral affection my male friends and relatives feel for their kids, it's really not THAT different for men.

If you're a guy and you use your gender as a reason for being less of a parent to your kids than their mother, it's not because of biology. It's because you're a *******.
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Old 01-07-2016, 09:31 PM
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It depends on the woman and the man. I had a neighbor friend growing up who was being raised by her father because her mother had neglected her. She turned out just fine. Not sexist, but you have to look at each individual on a case by case basis....
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Old 01-08-2016, 08:47 PM
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Yes, it is sexist....towards men.

Where have all of these people heard men use this as a cop-out for not taking care of their kids? I have literally never heard an absent father say this. If they don't want to take care of their kids, they usually don't bother to justify that.

I have, however, heard women say this type of thing. Usually as a way to belittle some "dim-witted" husband that they have or other man that they know...
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