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Old 01-06-2016, 03:13 PM
 
Location: Charlotte Area
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My advice is to forget about your mother having a regular, normal relationship with her grandkids.


Your children can become good friends with an older couple in the neighborhood, their other grandparents, parents of your friends or even make friends with people in a nursing home. Lots of older people would love to become surrogate grandparents to some young children.
They have a great relationship with their paternal grandparents. They see them at least a couple of times a week as they live in our neighborhood now and they live across the street from my son's best friend. My kid's are to the ages now where they are outside playing most of the weekend days with their friends in the neighborhood. They go to the parks in the hood together and flip between each other's houses. The grandparents suggest an outing and my son would rather play with his friends.
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Old 01-06-2016, 03:45 PM
 
Location: Charlotte Area
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I hope you told her all of this in your response. If she can't behave herself for the sake of her grandkids, then she can't see them. That's how I'd spin it. You have to protect your kids.
I did tell her that in the response. I also told her that I was tired of the silent treatment. It's been happening to me for years. There was a time when we were at a birthday dinner with her. It was me and my childhood best friend. We were maybe 22/23 at the time. She got upset with something we said. I think we were teasing her in a joking and lighthearted way and she got up and left and didn't talk to me for 2-3 months. I tried to call her and talk to her and she refused to come to the phone. Her husband had to tell me she didn't want to talk to me.
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Old 01-06-2016, 03:50 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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I did tell her that in the response. I also told her that I was tired of the silent treatment. It's been happening to me for years. There was a time when we were at a birthday dinner with her. It was me and my childhood best friend. We were maybe 22/23 at the time. She got upset with something we said. I think we were teasing her in a joking and lighthearted way and she got up and left and didn't talk to me for 2-3 months. I tried to call her and talk to her and she refused to come to the phone. Her husband had to tell me she didn't want to talk to me.
You gotta stop chasing her. She's just seeking attention and drama. Seriously who behaves that way? Next time she gets "offended" don't bother reaching out to her. If she never reaches out to you, oh well that is her problem not yours.
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Old 01-06-2016, 04:38 PM
 
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My mother was forever giving someone a "good letting alone." She wouldn't speak to various family members for years at a time over various misunderstanding or slights. It's a longstanding family tradition that my sisters have carried on.

I'm never understood this. Work out the misunderstanding at the moment or else just forget about it.

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Old 01-06-2016, 04:41 PM
 
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Leave it alone and do not subject your children to that nonsense.
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Old 01-06-2016, 06:42 PM
 
Location: Leaving fabulous Las Vegas, Nevada
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Do your kids miss Grandma? Do they ask about her?
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Old 01-06-2016, 07:01 PM
 
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Have you Googled Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Keeping kids away from these crazies is important.

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Old 01-06-2016, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Not letting her talk to your kids is not about punishing her. It's about not exposing your children to a whacko. She'll do that to them sooner or later, too.
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Old 01-06-2016, 07:16 PM
 
Location: Charlotte Area
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Do your kids miss Grandma? Do they ask about her?
They don't ask about her. I don't really know if they miss her.
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Old 01-06-2016, 07:40 PM
 
Location: here
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I think if they ask about her, let them call her. If G-ma calls to talk to them, let her. I wouldn't go out of my way otherwise.
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