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Old 01-15-2016, 08:08 AM
 
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In what world is a polite request regarding one's child a "big deal"??
The part where you said he is an azzhat if he tells you no and that he would prefer to keep the video posted.

He has the right to tell you no and he doesn't need to give you a reason. If he says no, a simple "OK, thanks for listening to my request" from you should suffice.

He's not an azzhat for deciding to keep up a video of something that you don't agree with.

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Old 01-15-2016, 08:46 AM
 
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I've stated several times that there is difference between someone else's kid being IN a video vs someone else's kid being the SUBJECT of the video. But rather than address the concerns of manners and neighborliness and propriety, lots of folks just keep saying "it's legal!!!" That's an odd response, IMO. A very odd response, in both question-answer-logic and in everyday-social-awareness.
It probably has more to do with people's to not wanting be controlled by their neighbors under the guise of "manners".
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Old 01-15-2016, 09:00 AM
 
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I took videos of my grandkids Xmas shows at their school.. And I have the other kids in it as well.. I am certainly not going to try and track down EVERYONE who had a kid in the show to get their permission if I decide to post on Social Media....
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Old 01-15-2016, 09:33 AM
 
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That's the thing here...I know I can't be picky about what is OK to be photographed or filmed. Simply put, it irritated me (not a sin), it caught me off guard because he's been the only neighbor or anyone for that matter believe it or not who posted a video of my child. My own parents and relatives do not have a single video of my children. It's wasn't grandma posting this, she wasn't at a dance recital, she wasn't on a field trip, etc, she wasn't participating in sports, honestly in these cases I wouldn't have even batted an eye, but obviously the majority opinion is no right to privacy and I am going to have to deal with it. Life goes on.
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Old 01-15-2016, 10:54 AM
 
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The bolded, coupled with the same man's near-hysteria in proclaiming that taking numerous photos and videos of other people's children--even after he's been asked to stop--is "completely natural" and "the most natural thing in the world"...yeah, that adds up to red flag level creepy behavior. Assuming, of course, it is the same person in both cases. But it's not illegal to be creepy, so why does he care if others around him find him creepy??
I don't care because they're being ridiculous, and superior intelligence doesn't submit to inferior nonsense, especially when it's legal and not done in an "in your face" manner.
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Old 01-15-2016, 12:43 PM
 
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That would make me uncomfortable. I would not appreciate someone else posting photos of videos of my child without my knowledge/consent.
Does your child never leave the house? Because, if they do, they are being filmed.

Why, exactly, do you have a problem with your kids being photographed or filmed in public? I don't get it. Most stores have cameras. Public areas have cameras. People are filming/taking pics with their phones everywhere and anywhere.
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Old 01-15-2016, 03:03 PM
 
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That's the thing here...I know I can't be picky about what is OK to be photographed or filmed. Simply put, it irritated me (not a sin), it caught me off guard because he's been the only neighbor or anyone for that matter believe it or not who posted a video of my child. My own parents and relatives do not have a single video of my children. It's wasn't grandma posting this, she wasn't at a dance recital, she wasn't on a field trip, etc, she wasn't participating in sports, honestly in these cases I wouldn't have even batted an eye, but obviously the majority opinion is no right to privacy and I am going to have to deal with it. Life goes on.
Hi MamaBear, I actually feel the same way you do. I also think in this day and age, it's unfortunately becoming "the norm" for people to accept - either consciously or unconsciously - that the concept of privacy is dying.

Some people seem fine with it, but others like you and I are not fine with it, but we don't have a choice.

Even if you/me/we/whoever is not on any social media platforms, others can still post photos of us, our kids, etc.

Online social media has gotten so out of hand that some states are now passing laws that say that it is against the law for employers to require their employees to have social media.

Think about that. Unless a law is passed... an employer can legally require you to be on Facebook, Twitter, or whatever.

That is creepy! To me. Maybe to you. But so many people who have grown up with FB are not bothered by it. To them it's "no big deal".

Maybe it is a new era of "digital divide". Now that most of us have access, now the issue is - what if you don't want it? What if you don't want to have anything to do with it? Do we have that right?

So, I'm sorry this happened to you. I have experienced similar situations. It's no fun. But I really don't know what the solution is.
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Old 01-15-2016, 03:08 PM
 
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Does your child never leave the house? Because, if they do, they are being filmed.

Why, exactly, do you have a problem with your kids being photographed or filmed in public? I don't get it. Most stores have cameras. Public areas have cameras. People are filming/taking pics with their phones everywhere and anywhere.
There is a difference between security cameras and a private individual filming your child, creating a video, and broadcasting it on their social media site.

There is also a difference between getting caught in the background of a photo or video when you are out in public, and what happened to the OP and her child. Not the same thing.
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Old 01-15-2016, 03:09 PM
 
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The person taking the video did nothing illegal
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Old 01-15-2016, 03:17 PM
 
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There is a difference between security cameras and a private individual filming your child, creating a video, and broadcasting it on their social media site.

There is also a difference between getting caught in the background of a photo or video when you are out in public, and what happened to the OP and her child. Not the same thing.
They are the same in terms of rights. If anything, the neighbor had even more rights, considering the fact that it was on his own privately owned property.
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