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Old 01-16-2016, 05:50 PM
 
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Well, why didn't he take the video down when the mother/op asked him to..... not his 7 year old daughter. His "500" friends had already seen it...yet he refused. What could possibly justify his refusal....Creepy!
A better questions is:

Well, why did you fail to comprehend what you read in this post? Seems like you missed the critical purpose of this post in which the mother did not yet ask the neighbor to remove the video and is posting here to understand whether she should or not.
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Old 01-16-2016, 06:04 PM
 
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A better questions is:

Well, why did you fail to comprehend what you read in this post? Seems like you missed the critical purpose of this post in which the mother did not yet ask the neighbor to remove the video and is posting here to understand whether she should or not.
it was deleted.....but feel free to carry on...
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Old 01-16-2016, 06:09 PM
 
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it was deleted.....but feel free to carry on...
Are you claiming the OP deleted a post where she said the neighbor refused to take it down and then replaced it with a post where she stated that she never spoke to him?
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Old 01-16-2016, 06:10 PM
 
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If your child is under the age of 13, Facebook will remove it if you fill out the form:

https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/144059062408922

Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks on this thread, according to Facebook, it's not acceptable.
Hahaha! That is for people who are sharing stuff you have shared with them or sharing content from your page.

It has nothing to do with someone posting a video taken in a public venue that isn't posted to your page.
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Old 01-16-2016, 06:10 PM
 
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I try to ask before I post pic/ or videos of other people's kids. However, my kid's are in performances & group sports and sometimes I can't get a shot of them without including other people's children. I don't think I would say anything about this single incident unless his FB friends make malicious comments or something.


Also I think if you are going to have a strong stance on the" no one posts pics of my kids issue" I would make sure you & your husband let others know that before they video/ take photos of your child. Just politely say when you see a phone/ camera- "We don't like her photos being shared". I absolutely respect that if others are upfront about it.
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Old 01-16-2016, 06:11 PM
 
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it was deleted.....but feel free to carry on...
You must be kidding. Or making stuff up. Or deluded.
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Old 01-16-2016, 06:45 PM
 
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You must be kidding. Or making stuff up. Or deluded.
Childish personal attack. Feel free to search up thread for my deletion.
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Old 01-16-2016, 08:13 PM
 
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Am I over-reacting? Hubby says I am. A neighbor down the street from us (we live in a subdivision, all of top of each other) posted a 10 second video of my daughter to his Facebook page. He is a big sports fan and put his sport team hat on her and filmed her wearing it with a quote along the lines this is what happens when your child hangs out with my child. Hubby knows the neighbor well as our kids play together. It bothers ME. All of his 500 friends are seeing this video and feel like he should have asked me or hubby if it was ok to post. Hubby told me to text/tell him directly if I had a problem with it. Yes, I have lots of pics on my Facebook page of my kids, which is private, but funny thing is, I do not have one single video of my children on Facebook. Thoughts?
...Here's the thing. We live in an age of amazing technology. And frankly, most people don't even know how to use that technology or understand it completely. For example, if you take a picture with your cell phone, that has GPS enabled, that picture now has the location embedded in the file code. For someone who knows how to decipher it, they could find your child by you posting a photo on the internet. It's called Geotagging. And, if your neighbor took a video of your child, the same situation applies, someone could find out EXACTLY where that video was taken.

If it's a stalker trying to abduct your child, they now know exactly where to look.

Obviously, this is a worst case scenario, but you see my point. I wouldn't want anyone posting pictures of my daughter that were taken on our street or near our home. If you had a child molester looking through those photos, they could find out exactly where you live.

Digital photos can reveal your location, raise privacy fears - CNN.com

As you can see, this story is from 2010. But even in 2016, most people are unaware of this.

OP, I wouldn't come down hard on your neighbor. But if you are uncomfortable with what he did, I think you just need to take him aside and explain that due to privacy concerns, you would feel better if he didn't post anything regarding your child in the future.
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Old 01-16-2016, 08:30 PM
 
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...Here's the thing. We live in an age of amazing technology. And frankly, most people don't even know how to use that technology or understand it completely. For example, if you take a picture with your cell phone, that has GPS enabled, that picture now has the location embedded in the file code. For someone who knows how to decipher it, they could find your child by you posting a photo on the internet. It's called Geotagging. And, if your neighbor took a video of your child, the same situation applies, someone could find out EXACTLY where that video was taken.

If it's a stalker trying to abduct your child, they now know exactly where to look.

Obviously, this is a worst case scenario, but you see my point. I wouldn't want anyone posting pictures of my daughter that were taken on our street or near our home. If you had a child molester looking through those photos, they could find out exactly where you live.

Digital photos can reveal your location, raise privacy fears - CNN.com

As you can see, this story is from 2010. But even in 2016, most people are unaware of this.

OP, I wouldn't come down hard on your neighbor. But if you are uncomfortable with what he did, I think you just need to take him aside and explain that due to privacy concerns, you would feel better if he didn't post anything regarding your child in the future.
Facebook and most photo sites strip out EXIF data. So in this case, it's not an issue.
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Old 01-16-2016, 09:09 PM
 
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I think another poster hit the nail on the head. You're projecting your own personal problems on others.

Families and friends film their children all the time. Someone else put it more equivalently so I will just quote him:



Without seeing the video or being there, we don't know who put the hat on the child. Maybe he just handed the hat over and the child put it on themselves. Either way, nothing creepy about it.

Your dad may have been a creep, but there's nothing creepy about most dads.

Maybe one day you'll have children and understand the idea of sharing memories.
See, the thing is, I have a bunch of kids, and I wouldn't film one of their little friends at my house and post it to Facebook. That's not "sharing memories"

If something funny happened while the kids were playing I might take pictures or videos and send it to the parents--because their kid and my kid are being funny. I would never bypass the parent and announce to the world: "look how funny/creative/super-duper artistic I am taking these videos of kids!"
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