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Old 01-12-2016, 08:33 AM
 
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Am I over-reacting? Hubby says I am. A neighbor down the street from us (we live in a subdivision, all of top of each other) posted a 10 second video of my daughter to his Facebook page. He is a big sports fan and put his sport team hat on her and filmed her wearing it with a quote along the lines this is what happens when your child hangs out with my child. Hubby knows the neighbor well as our kids play together. It bothers ME. All of his 500 friends are seeing this video and feel like he should have asked me or hubby if it was ok to post. Hubby told me to text/tell him directly if I had a problem with it. Yes, I have lots of pics on my Facebook page of my kids, which is private, but funny thing is, I do not have one single video of my children on Facebook. Thoughts?
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Old 01-12-2016, 08:38 AM
 
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What, exactly are you worried about? Did the neighbor tag you so it is obvious who the child is?

Part of me thinks this is not a big deal. I understand the control issue, though. My mil has a million friends and I don't love her posting photos of my kids either.
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Old 01-12-2016, 08:44 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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You're overreacting a little.

To you, it's about YOUR CHILD.

To him, it's about his team. It could be any kid on there, as long as the kid is wearing his team hat. He's trying to be funny and gig his other friends who apparently like a rival team.

You COULD make a deal out of it and confront him, but I'm not sure it's worth it.

If his friends start making rude comments about your daughter as a mascot, then I would tell him how you feel. Right now, I would let it go.
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Old 01-12-2016, 08:46 AM
 
Location: in here, out there
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Not that big of a deal. There's no expectation of privacy in this situation.
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Old 01-12-2016, 08:49 AM
 
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The fact is ANYONE can take a video of your kid while they are in public and post it. It doesn't seem as though your neighbor did it with bad intentions, so I wouldn't worry about it or get upset.
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Old 01-12-2016, 08:49 AM
 
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Do they play sports in public? Than what is the big deal?
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Old 01-12-2016, 09:01 AM
 
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In general I think its best to ask if you can post a pic/video of other people's kids on social media, but I don't think this is a huge deal. I think it could cause a lot of unneeded drama if you run with it.
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Old 01-12-2016, 09:09 AM
 
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Thoughts?

Meh. Big deal. I usually ask, but not everyone does. It doesn't bother me.
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Old 01-12-2016, 09:18 AM
 
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Am I over-reacting? Hubby says I am. A neighbor down the street from us (we live in a subdivision, all of top of each other) posted a 10 second video of my daughter to his Facebook page. He is a big sports fan and put his sport team hat on her and filmed her wearing it with a quote along the lines this is what happens when your child hangs out with my child. Hubby knows the neighbor well as our kids play together. It bothers ME. All of his 500 friends are seeing this video and feel like he should have asked me or hubby if it was ok to post. Hubby told me to text/tell him directly if I had a problem with it. Yes, I have lots of pics on my Facebook page of my kids, which is private, but funny thing is, I do not have one single video of my children on Facebook. Thoughts?
Your Facebook page with pictures of your kids may be private but if you send them to your relatives/friends, you don't know if their pages are private. You also don't know if someone can gain access to your photos even though the privacy settings are used. Never assume that what's supposed to be private on the Internet is actually private.

If your neighbors' actions bother you, depending on how close you are, you could ask him to ask your permission before he films your child again.
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Old 01-12-2016, 09:33 AM
 
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Your Facebook page with pictures of your kids may be private but if you send them to your relatives/friends, you don't know if their pages are private. You also don't know if someone can gain access to your photos even though the privacy settings are used. Never assume that what's supposed to be private on the Internet is actually private.

If your neighbors' actions bother you, depending on how close you are, you could ask him to ask your permission before he films your child again.
Also if you tag someone in a photo, then their page sees it and, depending on their privacy settings, the whole world can. Or if you make your kid's pic your profile pic, anyone can see it.
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