I wouldn't normally respond to these types of posts but in this case, I'm going to because I am not interested in paying for your welfare because you just could not function in life without a kid that you are clearly not ready for.
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Originally Posted by Gab12
Omg no! I'm so against that unless I'm like super old. Because it just seems desperate you know? Like then I have to explain that to a kid one day
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You
are desperate.
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Originally Posted by Gab12
I hate being alone is the worst thing ever. I just need to show the military guy that I'm great. I hope so much he wants to be with me when he's back. I wish I would be with someone clingy because then at least they won't leave me you know? They will value me and our relationship.
I just can't imagine being 40 and single I mean for some people out would be great and that's awesome but for me it would be so sad. I'm just sad all the time and being like that for the next 20 years is awful
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Is this a real thread? Is this not a troll thread? You want a baby so that you're not alone? You want someone who is clingy? Seriously? You have no idea what a clingy person can turn in to. You're only 25, and you're already thinking that 40 is tomorrow, chill out. If you're sad all the time, a baby isn't going to fix that.
Finish your school, get employed, find some fricken hobbies, make some friends, BAM, you won't be lonely anymore. And the older you get, by the way, the more you
want to be alone...so not, it doesn't have to be a "sad" thing.
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Originally Posted by Gab12
I just feel happiest in a relationship. I know I said this in another post. I do though even when it's bad. I'm just so thankful someone wants to be with me. My ex it was like a Jack pot because he was nice to me and liked me and wouldn't ever hit me and didn't push me for sex he was a good person. I know this military guy is also. I feel like... thankful that he's even interested in me.
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Number one reason not to go having a kid right now. You can't be happy by yourself. You think a "good" guy is a guy who doesn't hit you? Are you fricken serious right now? That's your criteria? "He doesn't hit me, so he's a good guy." Lord give me strength right now....
You don't even "have" military guy. And "thankful that he's even interested in me"....seriously...you need another therapist. The one you have is not doing you any favors. You are putting your worth on a guy liking you and "being nice" to you and "not hitting" you. I know that when people are young they are naive, but gottdangit girl, you are old enough to know what an actual "good" person is...unless you're not actually 25. To be honest, you're talking like a 15 year old girl. You are not emotionally ready to have a kid, you need to work on yourself, first.
Relationships are great, but they should not define you.
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Originally Posted by Gab12
I have no idea. My life won't be fulfilled or complete I will just be sad all the time and try to find someone to do it (be with me and get me pregnant
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Sigh. You most certainly can have a fulfilling life, but it sounds like you aren't even willing to try to find any fulfillment in anything else in life, you're pinning it all on a kid that you think you want...and honestly? That is horrifically unfair to the kid you're wanting.
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Originally Posted by Gab12
I don't like animals so I don't want a pet. I'm not unhinged for wanting a family at 25
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This is a red flag for me. What is it that you don't like about animals? I would love to hear what you don't like about animals.
By the way, what are you going to do when your non existent kid that you some day have gets older and begs you for a pet?
I repeat: Finish school, get a good paying job, establish yourself, live by your dang self for at least a year, relying on YOURSELF, find friends, find hobbies, learn to like yourself and not expect others to make you have some kind of worth, find your worth from yourself, and only then should you get involved with anyone else, and once you realize that "good guy" doesn't mean "doesn't hit me", only then should you think about having a kid.
I need a drink. I don't even drink, but I need a drink.