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I mean you can think what you want. I am. I'm not going to get pregnant tomorrow. I'm thinking more when the military guy is back which is summer fall time. I think if I have a job and apartment that's all I need and he will be a happy dad because he wants kids and be supportive and he will have medical and stuff and our income will be decent together I think
This guy, who you have met once or twice and say is a player is going to come back and just fall head over heel for you just because you have a job and an apartment?
He said he wants to "settle down" when he's out. Get married and have kids and he loves his nephew. Idk I was being crazy yesterday. I mean realistically if it just happened I wouldn't be mad but it hasn't just happened yet. So many people just accidentally get pregnant you know and I haven't yet because I'm always careful but I'm starting to just not care anymore.
Did you share your baby fever feelings with him? Maybe he is just feeding you a line to get in your pants.
If I truly felt a strong urge to be pregnant I would consider being a surrogate.
And, I had a hormonal surge that made me want to jump on any guy with sperm but I did NOT have a huge urge to raise a child as a good parent, day after day, endlessly, for years.
I don't like animals so I don't want a pet. I'm not unhinged for wanting a family at 25
You're unhinged for being obsessed with a child at 25 while being unmarried and unemployed.
You need to develop a plan and stop obsessing about your feelings and desires. You need to work toward goals. You should talk to people about your goals instead.
That's true I do need stability. I should wait but how long? Finding a husband is so hard I've been looking for forever. I was just in a relationship that ended
Wait until after you're married and settled into your career for a year or two. That could be when you're 28 or 35. Your age doesn't matter until after 35, that's when the chances increase for a health issue with a baby. You have a full decade to work with, you have plenty of time. A lot can happen in a decade.
Interestingly enough my therapist has the same license I will (hopefully) have in a month. She just had much more years of work and experience so.... she's only a few years older than me
Oh that's great.. congrats.
Perhaps the next thing in your life would be to focus on getting your career started with the intended goal of being able to support that child. You are still young with quite a few years left on the biological clock. Don't rush it. Once a child is in the picture, your career will have to be 2nd priority to the children which means career advancement may be stunted due to priorities.
Once you achieve a certain amount of stability, hopefully a spouse would also appear in your life. If not, you'll be far more capable of surviving single mother hood. Keep in mind too.. the legal ramifications of a child when it comes to the father. For example, you won't be able to simply move to where ever you want and take the child... he will have a say so as well (assuming shared custody).
The reason I asked "why" she wants a baby is she seems more concerned with what she wants.
Having a baby is all about what it needs.
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Sure until you realize you have to take care of the baby then it isn't quite so fun. Don't have no baby you can't afford because a baby is way more than "getting pregnant".
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