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Parenting styles, today’s parents not strict enough, children growing up too quickly, children raised without boundaries or rules, parents who shelter their kids

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Old 02-08-2008, 12:11 PM
 
Location: The Big D
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My point exactly!!! I remember this crap happening in Jr. High, not elementary school!!! Maybe they are getting it out of their system earlier so they will be happy and well adjusted by the time they are teenagers ....YEA RIGHT!!!

I hearby proclaim a new term for us ... we are dinoparents. We are all charter members! We can come up with a secret handshake later.
Yes, this girl stuff is starting early...... URGH!!!! It is usually not all of them or even a majority of them but just a few and it only takes a few to make it bad. My oldest did not have the problem but my youngest has at her school and w/ some of her friends. One "friend" even this week said she has been fighting w/ several other girls. WHAT! She is very bossy and tries to correct everyone. My dd is the sweet lovable one and does not like to fight at all (she likes to cheer them up instead - she is soooooooooo sweet). This girl will ALWAYS say that her class or she has done this better or more times or whatever. I used to blow it off but now if I'm right there and here it and know what she is saying is flat out wrong I will in a nice way correct HER. She tries to then twist it to say that was what she was trying to say. SURE! The older one it started a little bit later. Look at the girls that are like that and see what they are involved in. I'm not saying ALL of them are like this but it seems the majority of the girls that start this catty stuff really young have moms pushing them to be the number one cheerleader on the squad in competitive stuff. It could be cheer, dance, gymnastics but always something "girlie". Very seldom is it in sports but it is there.



The Dinosaur Club - COOL!!!!!!!!
We need an oath or something.
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Old 06-27-2008, 06:04 AM
 
Location: Waipahu, HI
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My parents were dinosaurs too. I had my own computer for playing games, but my parents also made me play outside and read books, and homework came before the computer. I also had a Walkman, but my parents forbad me to listen to it on family outings, e.g., the beach, shopping, sightseeing, etc., because they wanted me to pay attention to what was going on around me and socialize with my family. I asked my mom what is the sense in having a portable device if I can't take it with me, and she told me that there is a time and place for everything, and that if I was just going to listen to my Walkamn or use any other electronic device, I might as well stay home.
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Old 06-27-2008, 03:54 PM
 
Location: S. New Hampshire
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If that's where you are, then my dh and I hope to join you when our kids are that age While we don't object to TV or video games per se, we are insistent that content be age appropriate, and consumption be kept in moderation. As for cell phones, I taught in a private girls school for 8 years, and it seemed like every student had a cell phone. They couldn't talk on it during class, but otherwise there seemed to be no boundaries. There is no reason in my mind why a kid has to have a cell phone. If they're in school, and there's an emergency, the school will call me. When my kid gets to the stage where they do go out with friends and need to be dropped off/picked up, I could get one of those firefly phones where it can call and receive only a handful of numbers.

I'm really advocating no internet in their rooms. It has to stay in the communal areas.
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Old 06-28-2008, 05:28 AM
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Location: Wisconsin
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My daughter is 40 and her husband 43. Kids are 12 and 9. No tv in bedrooms...only the one in the family room that is v chipped and it is where a parent can always see what is on. They are very limited in what they are allowed to see and when they have spent the night with me they have told me; "We're not allowed to watch this" if something comes on they're not allowed to see. One "family" computer that is also set up in family room where they can be seen at any time. They are only allowed "study sites" and two games sites called Penquin and DragonFable. No cell phones..period. Oldest one just got an IPod for his birthday and his mother programmed it so she knows what songs are on it. They are VERY active in sports and parents are very involved in coaching and being at every game or gymnastic practice. They go on bike rides as a family, to church as a family, and take wonderful trips around the country and to other countries. The kids like to read and have a lot of great friends. So, although their parents are dinosaurs, they have a very happy life. Sounds like they are not alone. Congratulations on being PARENTS.
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Old 06-28-2008, 08:51 AM
 
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So many great points! I believe it is our duty as parents to protect our children. It is our job to build them up because the "outside" world will be trying to tear them down.

It does seem as if so many parents do want their children to grow up too quickly. My kids are 10, 8, 6, 4 and 2 and I desperately wish I could freeze time and keep them right here. They are so innocent. They still think I am the coolest, love to be around me and no "teenage attitudes" yet. Why would anyone want to accelerate this stage?!

I don't believe in televisions in their rooms, cell phones, etc. We enjoy doing activities as a family. It is so important for them to feel part of a loving family and to know that they have someone that loves them more than anything in the world.
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