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Old 01-18-2016, 09:56 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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I really do attract the men right out of prison, strung out on drugs, homeless, unemployed or bipolar. In other words, needy losers. I gave up trying to fix them into suitable spouses.

Latest boyfriend is a good guy and would make a great husband, but he is self sufficient and not interested in that type of relationship. So this is the most I can hope for in my future. If we split up, I give up.
Sounds more like she wants the revolving door of men to stop....
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:06 AM
 
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Sounds more like she wants the revolving door of men to stop....
I am dating my boyfriend after her insistence. Our kids pushed us together. She would love me to marry my boyfriend now, but marriage does not seem to be his goal. So I have just accepted to enjoy him while he is in our lives and not expect more.

When my kids reach adulthood, I am moving somewhere warm. Maybe that is when I will meet a husband, but if not, then I have me to count on.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:07 AM
 
Location: USA
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Sounds more like she wants the revolving door of men to stop....
I can't imagine what it's like for a child to grow up with a parent that do that. This goes for dads as well.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:12 AM
 
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I am dating my boyfriend after her insistence. Our kids pushed us together.
NNOOOO!!!! OMG who is the parent here??

Please get into counseling.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:15 AM
 
Location: New Yawk
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The best thing you can do, IMO, to continuously reinforce the positive male role models she does have. When she starts fixating over not having a father, it's your cue to acknowledge her feelings and her sense of loss, but remind her of who she has in her life.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:17 AM
 
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The best thing you can do, IMO, to continuously reinforce the positive male role models she does have. When she starts fixating over not having a father, it's your cue to acknowledge her feelings and her sense of loss, but remind her of who she has in her life.
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Ms.Mathlete again.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:20 AM
 
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I can't imagine what it's like for a child to grow up with a parent that do that. This goes for dads as well.
I was in a 7 year relationship with my sons father. Dated my daughters fathers cousin for five months and now with my boyfriend. My daughters best friends uncle. So three men in 12 years. All of them will always be in her life.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:21 AM
 
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I don't know. She was in tears about it this weekend that she feels like a misfit when her friends are talking about their fathers or a teacher mentions fathers. She never even met hers.

Fictitious? Haha, I wish they were only fictionally losers. I really do attract the men right out of prison, strung out on drugs, homeless, unemployed or bipolar. In other words, needy losers. I gave up trying to fix them into suitable spouses.

Latest boyfriend is a good guy and would make a great husband, but he is self sufficient and not interested in that type of relationship. So this is the most I can hope for in my future. If we split up, I give up.
So is your ex husband not her father?
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:21 AM
 
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The best thing you can do, IMO, to continuously reinforce the positive male role models she does have. When she starts fixating over not having a father, it's your cue to acknowledge her feelings and her sense of loss, but remind her of who she has in her life.
I will do this.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:23 AM
 
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So is your ex husband not her father?
No he is not her father.
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