Lost my cool with my teenage daughter... what do I do now?
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To a degree I agree but if it is accompanied by swearing, banging on a computer, throwing something or attempting some sort of physical altercation (which is what almost happened in the case of my son an dhis father) it should be nipped in the bud and dealt with pronto.
Oh you're darn right it should be. But I didn't address that.
Look, you seem to be blowing this out of proportion. You are looking at your daughter's words and actions seperate from the situation. And that situation is the problem she is having with school and how you reacted to her inability to study.
Her language was not right but neither were you right to chase her and scream at her. Your reaction may have come,from your fear of not being able to help get on track and I can understand how you could react this way.
Now is the time to stop blamming all. Time to let your daugjter know how you love her no matter what, to apologize for,getting angry and express your confidence in her ablility to learn how to study.
That is what she is struggling with- her time crunch, which may come from a fear she can't do it, can't learn. But she can if you discuss ways to learn how to set up her study area (study in same place everytime, have all materials ready, set time that is best for her- is she a night owl or better to take time as soon as she gets home... ect).
Most of all communicate your total belief in her. That you will always be there. Let her know you are sorry for over-reacting. That was because you are human. To apologize makes you a good dad.