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Old 02-11-2016, 09:51 AM
 
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Thanks for the information. She doesn't want to talk about it so I just have to buy something as her development is too obvious now not to wear something under her clothes.
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9 is mighty young....so I understand why she's reticent to talk about it!
She might not want to talk about it but it is happening. OP, have you talked to her about puberty yet?
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Old 02-11-2016, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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My girls are 13-almost 14 and I would never let them wear anything with an underwire in it. There are many sources of information about the safety or dangers of underwire bras. This might not be the best one but I found it interesting. I am large breasted and used to wear underwire bras. Big mistake.

The Dangers of Underwire Bras - Health Wealth & Happiness - Relfe.com

this might be a good thing to show her. Breasts and Bras


my girls like the thin "training" bras we got at Target. Being Asian they are pretty small busted but they still need a modesty shield. One has to be reminded to put one on when we leave the house on the weekends and the other just automatically puts one on every morning. She is a bit bigger than her sister but neither need support at this point.

30 years ago my 6 year old son went to first grade with a girl who had noticeable breasts and of course, she wore a bra. I always felt so sorry for her. But now we are seeing more and more young girls with early puberty.
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Old 02-12-2016, 08:34 AM
 
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They sell them everywhere. Buy 1 or 2 in colors/designs she likes and put them in her room. She will try them on just don't push her. If they come with the cup liner, take them out. My 10 year old is fine with sports bras (Liners removed) and undershirts. As long as she wears an undershirt or sports bra, all is well.

Also, a good book for girls that age is American Girl The Care and Keeping of You. My daughter started developing at 8-terrifies me.
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Old 02-12-2016, 09:10 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Can't resist posting this picture of my oldest daughter in her first "training bra". She's now 32 and could just about fit into that size bra today!

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Old 02-12-2016, 12:50 PM
 
Location: In a house
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My girls are 13-almost 14 and I would never let them wear anything with an underwire in it. There are many sources of information about the safety or dangers of underwire bras. This might not be the best one but I found it interesting. I am large breasted and used to wear underwire bras. Big mistake.

The Dangers of Underwire Bras - Health Wealth & Happiness - Relfe.com

this might be a good thing to show her. Breasts and Bras


my girls like the thin "training" bras we got at Target. Being Asian they are pretty small busted but they still need a modesty shield. One has to be reminded to put one on when we leave the house on the weekends and the other just automatically puts one on every morning. She is a bit bigger than her sister but neither need support at this point.

30 years ago my 6 year old son went to first grade with a girl who had noticeable breasts and of course, she wore a bra. I always felt so sorry for her. But now we are seeing more and more young girls with early puberty.
Uh - you probably shouldn't take the relfe (dot) com link very seriously. It's a "kenesiologist" who wrote a non-fiction self-help book with her husband about how to prevent alien abductions, and who, as a couple, are lauded by whale-to as the next-best thing since tin-foil hats. In short - they're a couple of loonytune crackpots.
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Old 02-28-2016, 10:57 AM
 
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They sell them everywhere. Buy 1 or 2 in colors/designs she likes and put them in her room. She will try them on just don't push her. If they come with the cup liner, take them out. My 10 year old is fine with sports bras (Liners removed) and undershirts. As long as she wears an undershirt or sports bra, all is well.

Also, a good book for girls that age is American Girl The Care and Keeping of You. My daughter started developing at 8-terrifies me.
It terrifies me too!!! We purchased a few of the sports bra type from target and she wears one everyday now. She seems to like them and I think she got some social points as her friend noticed the strap and said oh yeah look I have one too. She is closer to 10 now so I think the beginning of body changes is normal development at this point. I just hope she doesn't get her period until at the very LEAST 7th grade.

I have had a few parents tell me that some of their boys have a crush on my daughter and I'm (internally terrified) but lucky for me she isn't interested in any particular boys yet like some of her friends.
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Old 02-28-2016, 11:00 AM
 
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She might not want to talk about it but it is happening. OP, have you talked to her about puberty yet?
Yes, but I don't push it on her... I just made her aware that she can come talk to me privately if she has any questions and there is nothing to be embarrassed about as it wouldn't be in front of her siblings.
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Old 03-05-2016, 12:35 PM
 
Location: God's Country
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Never understood the reason for them. I mean, I can understand training wheels on a bicycle help you develop your balance, but can't figure out what exercise or posture a tng. bra is designed to help master.
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Old 03-05-2016, 02:03 PM
 
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You might want to consider getting books on puberty for her. Its really opened up communication between me and my son. He can read about things in private and when he has a question, he comes to me. Its made it 1000% easier then the awkward conversations of the past. Just look on amazon. They have religious ones, non-religious ones, ones for boy or girls, puberty only or also sex. My 9 year old daughter isn't interested in reading them yet, she just isn't interested at all. We have several and my son reads them often. He is 10.5 and I bought them when he was 8. But they are around when she is interested.

As a side note, I thought puberty was going to be late for my daughter. She is very thin, and when I was younger I noticed girls with more body fat seemed to go through puberty sooner then thin girls. Anyways, I was tickling her last night and my hand brushed up against her chest. She has very buds forming. Very new development! (pun intended) Maybe its going to happen sooner then I expected. She just turned 9. Eek!
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Old 03-05-2016, 02:29 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Never understood the reason for them. I mean, I can understand training wheels on a bicycle help you develop your balance, but can't figure out what exercise or posture a tng. bra is designed to help master.
It's early training for the decades of torture to come.
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