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Old 02-20-2016, 10:57 AM
 
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My brother started down the drugs path around the OP's daughter's age. 17, to be exact. He started with pot, my parents objecting to him hanging out with his bad neighbor friend only encouraged him more. He moved away from the "bad influence" at 18, didn't change his rebellious nature. He just found new friends with bad influences.

He's in an urn on my parent's mantle now. OD, June of 2014.

This is why I don't think moving or forbidding their interaction is the answer.

Drug addictions are a very complex issue, and there isn't one magic answer. Getting professionals involved is probably the smart move, and something I think our family should have done.
Yes, I'm well aware of the issues involved with addiction.

I'm very sorry about your brother.

I do think there's quite a difference between 15 and 17, and sure, maybe she'll continue regardless. There's probably a reason she's going along with the older neighbor in the first place. That doesn't mean you don't do everything within your power to stop it, it may be futile, but it may not. 15 is still young.

I would think moving and getting considerably more involved in her daily life would be a good start.
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Old 02-20-2016, 11:06 AM
 
Location: Nashville, TN
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Yeah, there are definitely short- and long-term considerations at play here. Hopefully the OP doesn't beat herself up about this.
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Old 02-20-2016, 08:59 PM
 
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Of course you make great points and I have tried talking to her but as I said mother has been drunk or drinking and dismisses everything.

I can understand why daughter thinks it's great hanging around an adult dating adult things but why would a 21 year old want to hang around a 15 year old??
I think a better question why would you allow your daughter to hang out with an adult? Six years isn't a big age difference when you're 40 and 46, it's huge when you're 15.
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Old 02-24-2016, 06:04 PM
 
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Theres something not logical in this


Hands up whod have their kid home if they were smoking weed next door at 15?


ALL OF US! yet OP seems hardly bothered.
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Old 02-25-2016, 07:56 AM
 
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Theres something not logical in this


Hands up whod have their kid home if they were smoking weed next door at 15?


ALL OF US! yet OP seems hardly bothered.

I'd have called the law already. Several times.
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Old 02-25-2016, 08:05 AM
 
Location: Nashville, TN
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Theres something not logical in this


Hands up whod have their kid home if they were smoking weed next door at 15?


ALL OF US! yet OP seems hardly bothered.
OP was banned. Don't hold your breath for any updates.
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