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View Poll Results: Do You Practice Gender Neutral Parenting (Select all that Apply)
Yes, I Practice Gender Neutral Parenting 8 11.27%
No, I do Not Practice Gender Neutral Parenting 21 29.58%
Yes, I Practice Gender Neutral Parenting - My Children are All Boys 0 0%
No, I do Not Practice Gender Neutral Parenting - My Children are All Boys 10 14.08%
Yes, I Practice Gender Neutral Parenting - My Children are All Girls 6 8.45%
No, I do Not Practice Gender Neutral Parenting - My Children are All Girls 7 9.86%
Yes, I Practice Gender Neutral Parenting - My Children are Both Boys and Girls 5 7.04%
No, I do Not Practice Gender Neutral Parenting - My Children are Both Boys and Girls 22 30.99%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 71. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 02-24-2016, 11:30 PM
 
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I do not practice gender neutral parenting, however as my children get older and grow their interests, I try to oblige all of their interests, whatever they may be.
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Old 02-25-2016, 12:18 PM
 
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When my daughter was young, I bought her a wide variety of toys, including toys that were stereotyped for one gender or the other. As she grew older, I noticed that she showed a strong preference for stereotypical girl toys, and played very little with stereotypical boy toys (except for science and building toys, but I never understood why people labeled them as boy toys anyway). I don't like to waste money or space on things she won't play with much, so I stopped buying toys out of the "boy" aisles. Now I do all her gift shopping in the "girl" aisles and the "educational toy" aisles.
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Old 02-25-2016, 05:39 PM
 
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I did not consciously practice it aside from the fact that I wanted my daughter to play the sport not cheer lead on the side...she is a very alpha female (21) probably from having an older brother and playing with all boys...never told her to "act like a young lady"...just be respectful and polite...
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Old 02-25-2016, 08:49 PM
 
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I have never pushed my kids one way or another. That being said, I have 3 daughters and 1 son, and from birth they were very different. My girls were more social and smiled a lot and gazed at me. I could barely get my son to look at me. He was much more impulsive, active, and destructive. He was always throwing and smashing things. I don't buy the whole "blank slate, you can raise them to be whomever you want" theory. I believe most of who a child becomes is nature!

That being said, having 3 big sisters my son was put in tutus, had bows put in his hair, had his nails painted, and even had his legs shaved once by a preteen sister (which he enjoyed!) His favorite color is pink. Otherwise, he's like any other little boy. He didn't grow up damaged by the experience, and still prefers being rough and tumble with the guys.
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Old 03-02-2016, 10:21 AM
 
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I've never made gender a big deal. Hubs like comic book stuff so for the first couple of years most of my daughter's toys were traditionally boy-ish. Then she hit the princes phase. Honestly though, she likes both boy and girl stuff but gravitates towards pink and purples. Since she has started preschool, however, she's acutely aware of boys vs girls. She'll say so-and-so is a boy, so-and-so is a girl, x toy is for boys, x toy is for a girl and so on. We've never taught it to her but she's figured it out herself.

My son is 1 and most of his toys are hand-me-downs from big sis. We have a lot of boy stuff but there's plenty of girl stuff that we let him play with so it'll be interesting to see what he gravitates towards as he gets a little older.
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Old 03-03-2016, 06:55 AM
 
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Do you practice gender neutral parenting?
I try, but I know I am not perfect. I have a daughter and a son. I let them live their lives. They get the same rules.
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Old 03-07-2016, 02:59 AM
 
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I let them decide what toys to play with. I have girls, they play with cars, draw, color, play minecraft, stuffed animals. Never were into dolls. Love pink and purple and dresses. They decided what colors their rooms should be. One wantes pink and green. We made it work.

I don't think of it as gender neutral, just parenting
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Old 03-11-2016, 10:03 PM
 
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I watched my sister parent her kids in a gender neutral way. I watched as her beautiful youngest daughter became so confused about her gender ID due to being given a short 'neutral' haircut, GN clothes and even a GN name, that as a teenager she ended up taking hormones, growing a beard changing her name to a boys name and estranging herself from the family. So sad.
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Old 03-12-2016, 11:01 AM
 
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Old 03-18-2016, 01:46 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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I've never made gender a big deal. Hubs like comic book stuff so for the first couple of years most of my daughter's toys were traditionally boy-ish. Then she hit the princes phase. Honestly though, she likes both boy and girl stuff but gravitates towards pink and purples. Since she has started preschool, however, she's acutely aware of boys vs girls. She'll say so-and-so is a boy, so-and-so is a girl, x toy is for boys, x toy is for a girl and so on. We've never taught it to her but she's figured it out herself.

My son is 1 and most of his toys are hand-me-downs from big sis. We have a lot of boy stuff but there's plenty of girl stuff that we let him play with so it'll be interesting to see what he gravitates towards as he gets a little older.
Just to be clear, there is no inborn "princess stage". That is something completely fabricated by marketers with a little push from Disney. There was Disney in the 70's too, and some princesses but there was not ONE girl who had to wear pink sparkly clothes every day or else have a fit....NOW look at all the girls doing so...

Sure, girls and boys figure out that they are boys and girls...and we all learn society's rules. That says nothing about whether those rules mean much of anything. The problem is believing they are actually rules versus something that can and should be broken as desired.
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