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Old 02-24-2016, 01:42 PM
 
Location: Long Island
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this has to be a joke... why can't she understand? Why don't you understand why it's a concern? Tazer, nail gun, etc. It doesn't matter. Solution? Remember to remove it, and don't blame her.
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Old 02-24-2016, 01:43 PM
 
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My bad I read it too fast (read it as 2 yrs old).
If daddy does this every day starting now when he gets home, Jr. will expect it and will not take issue with it. It will be his normal. Dad comes home, locks up his gun, and then we get cuddles and play time. Easy peasy. Anyways, it isn't emotionally scarring for a kid to have to wait 1 minute for a hug.
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Old 02-24-2016, 01:44 PM
 
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There may or may not be a cultural aspect here. Too little info to tell.

I imagine this scenario - the OP steps in the door and immediately the child runs toward him "papa! papa!" the intention being to be immediately swept up in the OP's arms. No time to put away the weapon which I reckon to be holstered in the type that resides inside a sport coat.

So yeah, there is a bit of an emotional dilemma here.

The OP may actually worry that stopping to put away the weapon first could emotionally harm his son.

BTW - I agree some of the comments are ignorant. With a semi automatic pistol having the safety off may or may not mean discharge can happen easily. It all depends on the make and model of weapon not to mention aftermarket mods. Plus OP clearly stated the safety is engaged prior to entering the home.
The baby is only 2 months old at this point, so no running to papa when he comes in the door. The OP should establish a routine - put the gun (safety on) away when he walks in the door preferably in a gun safe.
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Old 02-24-2016, 01:48 PM
 
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I work as protection officer for a high ranking official's security detail. I obviously carry a gun whole the time.

My partner and I have a 2 month old son and when I get home, I'm always eager to go pick him up and cuddle him.

She always gets upset when I forget to take my gun off my holster before holding the baby. Her father killed her mother with a shotgun in front of her when she was a teen and she can't handle the sight of weapons.

Why doesn't she understand carrying one is simply part of my job?
You are really asking this question?

Put it this way. Forget the guns. Assume your partner was a doctor or plumber or painter and forgot to wash his/her hands before picking up a newborn. Wouldn't you be upset?

Maybe have a routine when you get home about putting away your work equipment before picking up your newborn?
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Old 02-24-2016, 01:57 PM
 
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Seems like you picked the wrong "partner" to have a child with, or you picked the wrong line of work. Those two things don't seem to be able to reconcile with each other.
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Old 02-24-2016, 01:59 PM
 
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Wow, a lot of ignorance being displayed.

If you are carrying all day, everyday, it just becomes normal and you don't think about it. That's how someone could "forget" they were carrying.

And seriously? comparing being armed with germs and filth from some other job? that's rich.
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Old 02-24-2016, 02:07 PM
 
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I work as protection officer for a high ranking official's security detail. I obviously carry a gun whole the time.

My partner and I have a 2 month old son and when I get home, I'm always eager to go pick him up and cuddle him.

She always gets upset when I forget to take my gun off my holster before holding the baby. Her father killed her mother with a shotgun in front of her when she was a teen and she can't handle the sight of weapons.

Why doesn't she understand carrying one is simply part of my job?
Okay, so you live and have a baby with a woman who cannot handle the sight of weapons, because HER FATHER KILLED HER MOTHER WITH A GUN, yet you "forget" to take the weapon off as soon as you get home, (as you would be used to doing by now if this was an accurate representation of the facts) or better yet have a job which doesn't require you wear a weapon at all times.

What is it you expect here? Whether it's um, safe or not, whether it's "part of your job" or not, is HARDLY THE POINT, now, is it? As you well know.

So what's your actual reason for asking this question that you already answered in the OP?
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Old 02-24-2016, 02:09 PM
 
Location: Type 0.7 Kardashev
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I work as protection officer for a high ranking official's security detail. I obviously carry a gun whole the time.

My partner and I have a 2 month old son and when I get home, I'm always eager to go pick him up and cuddle him.

She always gets upset when I forget to take my gun off my holster before holding the baby. Her father killed her mother with a shotgun in front of her when she was a teen and she can't handle the sight of weapons.

Why doesn't she understand carrying one is simply part of my job?
If you know that about her history and you haven't yet understood her aversion to firearms, I'm afraid you never will.
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Old 02-24-2016, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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My god I cant believe what Im reading is this OP for real.... christ you get a reaction for a cigarette near a baby never mind a bloody gun... you need some serious issues addressed.
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Old 02-24-2016, 02:24 PM
 
Location: Alaska
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I work as protection officer for a high ranking official's security detail. I obviously carry a gun whole the time.

My partner and I have a 2 month old son and when I get home, I'm always eager to go pick him up and cuddle him.

She always gets upset when I forget to take my gun off my holster before holding the baby. Her father killed her mother with a shotgun in front of her when she was a teen and she can't handle the sight of weapons.

Why doesn't she understand carrying one is simply part of my job?
Why don't you simply show her compassion and understanding and use the 10-15 seconds it takes to lock your gun up before you pick up your son?


You know she experienced something traumatic that will probably be with her for the rest of her life, so if you love her, put her first.


You're not the first gun-toter and you won't be the last, don't make it all about you.
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