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Old 03-08-2016, 09:09 PM
 
Location: U.S.A., Earth
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Was he just comparing size? How men would do it with other men? Some of that stuff doesn't automatically seat him in the homosexual section of things.
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Old 03-08-2016, 10:58 PM
 
Location: Buckeye, AZ
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I'd confront on the porn, not the type of porn.
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Old 03-09-2016, 12:02 AM
 
Location: "Silicon Valley" (part of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA)
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lol I enjoy gay porn and I am a mostly straight man. I've had obsessive crushes on women, and felt intense heartbreak from women, but never had any kind of romantic feelings for men.

Of course I also contribute to HRC, GLAAD, and Lamda Legal.
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Old 03-09-2016, 12:17 AM
 
Location: Somewhere below Mason/Dixon
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As a man I would want to know if it were my kid. In fact if my wife hid a major problem like this from me I would be upset. While all boys look at some dirty pictures, this sounds more serious. That is not the kind of stuff I looked at when I was a youngin. If it were my kid I would want him to talk to a Pastor about it. Modern technology is partly to blame here, too much weird stuff is available to anyone nowadays. When I was 13 it was a stack of playboys, now its clearly anything.
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Old 03-09-2016, 02:35 AM
 
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lol I enjoy gay porn and I am a mostly straight man. I've had obsessive crushes on women, and felt intense heartbreak from women, but never had any kind of romantic feelings for men.

Of course I also contribute to HRC, GLAAD, and Lamda Legal.
lol
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Old 03-09-2016, 04:33 AM
 
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Its not pseudo-intellectual nor is it modern. Its a FACT that human sexuality is a spectrum not an either/or. Now maybe YOU are on the very end of the spectrum but MOST people are not.

You know what's dangerous? Believing everything you think instead of learning facts.
Sometimes I feel like I'm everywhere on the spectrum. Leave the kid alone.
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Old 03-09-2016, 05:26 AM
 
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best to quietly talk to him- I found that once on my sons phone- and it was a joke going around with the teens- but the better you take the news the better for all - My granddaughter thinks she is BI- but never had a relationship so she doesn't really know- teen time is experiment time-- they look at everything all kinds of ways. Just have a quiet talk.
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Old 03-09-2016, 06:14 AM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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People fall into one of thre categories: heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. There is no spectrum, no gray areas in between those categories.
I'd add asexual to that list. Some people have no sexual feelings whatsoever.
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Old 03-09-2016, 06:37 AM
 
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I am a parent who regrets having over-reacted at times. That is the worst thing you can do. Put on the parental controls and keep a sense of good humor, and open discussion. Laughter goes a long way. Agree that it is natural to be curious, and how to do that safely. By all means do not take him for counseling, but do share with his father - not as a report of something bad but to protect your husband's role in the family and to avoid setting up traditions of holding secrets. His dad can remember being 13. 😉
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Old 03-09-2016, 07:44 AM
 
Location: Huntsville, AL
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For immature adults, I'm sure it is. But for rational and mature adults is more of an occasional outlet and a possible relationship enhancement. Porn has been around since man started drawing on walls - it's just a lot more realistic these days.
Oh yeah, a LOT more realistic! Until I look to see that Johnny is packing some 14" meat - and Sally doesn't have an inch of fat on her body - and she's able to put all of Johnny in her mouth... YEAH that's reality... lol
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