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Old 03-07-2016, 03:24 PM
 
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Regardless, this is a great opener to discussions about responsible sexual behavior, relationships, love vs lust and all manner of important conversations about sexuality.
Also about responsible internet behavior. I know kids are curious, but I'm not so sure watching porn on a regular basis is something that is OK for a 13-year-old.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:29 PM
 
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Jesus!!!

What are these kids doin' with their phones!!
The same thing most of us would be doing if we had this kind of tech at that age.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:29 PM
 
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Also about responsible internet behavior. I know kids are curious, but I'm not so sure watching porn on a regular basis is something that is OK for a 13-year-old.
It popped into my head just now that you could not pay me to be that age again. I was such a confused mess back then and so were all of my peers.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:30 PM
 
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Why haven't you set parental controls on the phone in regards to what he can access?
Also you should ask him why he lied to get onto the porn sites when he signed up, one has to put in their date of birth and verify they are a minimum of 21 years old I believe but it may be 18.
You have bigger issues than his current sexual curiosity.
That is just untrue. There are plenty of sites that don't require age verification.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:31 PM
 
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Regardless, this is a great opener to discussions about responsible sexual behavior, relationships, love vs lust and all manner of important conversations about sexuality.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:34 PM
 
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I think calling out the gay porn was a mistake. I think you could have just talked to him about porn not being acceptable to view and leave it at that. But that ship has sailed. So say nothing, ask nothing. You let him know you are ok with it if he is gay. Leave it at that. Do everything in your power not to focus on that. When your son is ready to share, he will.

And you were more then right to look. There is no privacy online, it's foolish to give your kid privacy from parents when he doesn't actually have privacy from the world when he is online.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:46 PM
 
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How about taking no action until you've had time to settle? Finding those sites was a shock and a horror, I get that. So please allow yourself some space to recover a bit. Do nothing now. Except continue to keep your son's safety as the highest priority.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:49 PM
 
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The same thing most of us would be doing if we had this kind of tech at that age.
I would be chasing straight

I never thought about gay porn.
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Old 03-07-2016, 03:58 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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Allow him his curiosity. Give him his space..within reason. He is 13, and budding sexuality.
My daughter is a lesbian. I have not told her grandfather though, as he has expressed bigotry? towards that idea. He is 90 though. A whole different generation.
Ask him if he would be comfortable talking to a counselor about this. He may just be plain old curious.
At least your son accepts the fact that you, as his mom, needs to be aware of his phone and internet history.
I think it's way too early to talk about counseling. There's nothing wrong or abnormal about being gay and he hasn't expressed any issues other than confusion which is normal. I'd totally freak if my mom had found my porn - that would be the worst of it. Now mom needs to butt out since she's made it clear things are okay whatever and that she wants to talk. Just fine for now.

I know dad may not be cool with it but it'd help if he could talk to his son about porn and what it IS and what it is NOT in terms of being real. 30 years ago everyone was trying to get a playboy magazine - online porn is a much different thing.
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Old 03-07-2016, 04:05 PM
 
Location: Wallingford, CT
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Gay porn (man on man) and amine gay porn (man on man) and cartoon gay porn (man on man) I freaked out,
Stop freaking out.

Most anime/cartoon gay porn has very, very, very effeminate guys. Second, don't send him to a damn therapist. Being gay isn't a mental disorder. Your son should tell your husband, but tbh, your husband probably knows.

He's only 13. He's going to probably have wild interests that don't pan out in reality the way they do in his head. In fact I'd be more freaked out if he wasn't browsing porn.
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