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Old 03-07-2016, 10:26 PM
 
Location: Sunrise
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The problem with porn is that it gives people an unrealistic expectation about how fast a plumber will answer a call.
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Old 03-07-2016, 11:07 PM
 
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Absolutely false.

When I watched porn, it was almost always lesbian porn and I am not gay. I read somewhere that the largest audience of female on female porn were straight females. OP please don't listen to these guys. What one prefers for porn isn't always what one prefers in real life. Porn is about sex. Sexual orientation is about a LOT more than that.
Men, both gay and straight, are sexually SO different from women it isn't even funny!


If the porn industry needed females to make money, they'd go broke yesterday.
Almost ALL porn is purchased by males by both headcount and $$$ spent.
Women rarely get physically aroused by visuals like most men, but find story books, both X rated and soft or romantic porn - which we euphemise as 'erotica' - more to our liking.


It is however true sometimes that what one prefers to arouse desire in the way of content is not necessarily what one prefers in real life, but this is more true of women than men. (Think fantasies of being forced, or other unacceptable behaviors).


BUT sexual orientation is indeed about sex, AND it is also much more.
Only the balance differs greatly between males and females.


I am a scientist, a student of sexuality, and more importantly, my girlfriends husband was in the business in both NY and CA. It is a massive and fascinating industry.
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Old 03-07-2016, 11:27 PM
 
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Which one do you have a problem with? The porn? Or that he might be gay?

Why do you not know what your husband would do in the situation? Why have you and your husband not discussed these kinds of scenarios before hand? Do you know which one he would have the issue with, the gayness or the porn?

Also, what would be the problem with either or both of these?
Did you not read what the OP wrote? She loves her son(as she should) regardless.



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Erm OP


have you ever thought of Respecting Your Sons Privacy?


#seenoevil
Brilliant comment. People who don't pay attention to what their young teens are doing, sometimes end up with child on the other side of the country because the pedophile they have been talking to sent them a plane/bus ticket or worse.

Besides, mom is paying the bill. So it's technically her phone.
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Old 03-07-2016, 11:40 PM
 
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Try talking to your son about the dangers of getting into internet porn and how it can affect him, especially from such an early age, and getting into relationships as he ages. They're not realistic, yes they may be an opportunity to explore curiosities and maybe even sexual orientation, but porn is not something i personally thing someone should use to figure out a part of themselves.
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Old 03-07-2016, 11:58 PM
 
Location: Minneapolis, MN
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He's 13, going through puberty. He may be gay, may be bi. LEAVE HIM ALONE! So what if he was looking at porn, gay or otherwise he is 13. It is natural! The only reason you should be concerned is if he's sexting or talking to strangers. Do not embarrass him and don't even mention this to his dad! Ignore it. It's an awkward situation, put it behind you. If he's gay he's gay, accept and love him but don't make a deal out of porn.
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Old 03-08-2016, 02:17 AM
 
Location: the Permian Basin
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Sorry. It is normal for boys that age to look at porn.
I never said it wasn't normal.
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Old 03-08-2016, 02:34 AM
 
Location: the Permian Basin
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I I wouldn't tell the dad though. If the dad starts harassment or throws the kid out it may well end your marriage.
Oh, but keeping secrets about the child won't put a strain on the marriage?
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Old 03-08-2016, 03:06 AM
 
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I have no issue with my son being gay if he was!
Porn is porn, and draws in the attention of anyone. I don't think you should worry about your son't orientation right now, just deal with porn and general internet behavior.
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Old 03-08-2016, 03:17 AM
 
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At 13 I was more gay than anything else. I turned out to be straight, married, and somewhat bi-curious (not actively!).

I am guessing it is just a phase, and I would not do anything.
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Old 03-08-2016, 03:36 AM
 
Location: Sydney, Australia
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Er...I found tons of gay porn on my friend's browsing history when he was 13. Now, at 23, the dude is a massive womanizer. He's a promiscuous beast who bones different women every week.

At that age, boys experiment with different types of porn. Doesn't mean that they are gay. And even if he turns out to be gay, who cares. It's 2016. Not only that, it's natural. You have to help him and guide him. Don't freak out, or else he'll be more fazed and upset. At the end of the day, he's your son.

P.S. I am gay and I've actually watched more straight porn than gay porn in my teen years.
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