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Old 03-14-2016, 08:54 PM
 
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We tried to make a move back to my home state before my oldest started kinder. Life events got in the way, and we didn't make the move. Fast forward about 12 1/2 years, and things fell in to place, allowing us to make this long awaited change. My oldest is now 14 (13 when we moved.) This has been a great move in so many ways, and we have no regrets. However, I will say this has been the hardest year with my daughter, with some pretty big issues related to move stress, anxiety and making new friends. We are seeing the light, and some of it may have just been teenager stuff we would have seen if we hadn't moved, but I often think that it would have been a heck of a lot easier if we would have made this move before school ever started for her.
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Old 03-14-2016, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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Every kid is different. We moved with my children when they were six and eight my daughter did very well, however my son had an extraordinarily hard time and really struggled. We moved from a place were both kids had a very close circle of friends to a new town not far away with better schools similar to your situation. Looking back I am not sure I would do it again.

We moved again five years later and this time to transition surprisingly better! My son was entering eighth-grade my daughter entering sixth grade they both are much happier here and have made great friends and a very smooth transition. I think it's hard to say what is right for your child only you can decide .
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Old 03-14-2016, 10:44 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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Another military family here, and we moved all the time (not by choice, but by orders). There have been studies that show that military kids seem more "adaptable" because of the fact they move constantly and have to learn to make new friends and learn new things required of their parents time serving.

Sometimes things we look at with dread or in trepidation, kids look at as new adventures! Present your kids with the "new adventure" aspect vs concern and they might just shine vs suffer the move.

Heck our kids had to learn to deal with different languages/food/culture vs a move in the same town. I think see lots of "stability" in your move given they will still be in the same area, just different school/neighborhood.
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Old 03-14-2016, 10:54 PM
 
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Don't forget about moving and the affects on you and your husband as well.
Moving now while you have only 1 non-school aged child will be a million times easier than in 10 years with 2 preteens! (not to mention 10 years worth of 4 people's stuff)

However, just to make your decision harder you also need to look at the flip side: schools.
You mention upper grades being bad schools? Is there any chance of that changing? Don't know where you live but most places change quite a bit in a decade. Could the schools get better, worse, could the district re-draw boundary lines, could you save and be able to send your kids to a private school, maybe a charter school will open up.... If the high school is your only reason to move, you may want to re-consider.
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Old 03-15-2016, 10:26 AM
 
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if the new school district is closer, like next town over.. could you send ur kids there while still living in current house. we have school of choose and its very common for kids to attend school in different district
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Old 03-15-2016, 11:48 AM
 
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Definitely sooner rather than later. I don't see many benefits with waiting.

Best of luck with whatever you decide.
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Old 03-15-2016, 02:43 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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if the new school district is closer, like next town over.. could you send ur kids there while still living in current house. we have school of choose and its very common for kids to attend school in different district
I wouldn't count on that being an option. I've never heard of anyone doing that in the Chicago area, for example. We had to jump through a ton of hoops to start school in our new district because the house my parents were building was not ready yet, but they didn't want us going to school in one district for a few weeks and then transferring to another. We ended up having to rent an apartment in the district in order to attend.
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Old 03-15-2016, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Charlotte Area
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if the new school district is closer, like next town over.. could you send ur kids there while still living in current house. we have school of choose and its very common for kids to attend school in different district
If that was an option people wouldn't be sending their kids to private schools.
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Old 03-15-2016, 11:31 PM
 
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Don't forget about moving and the affects on you and your husband as well.
Moving now while you have only 1 non-school aged child will be a million times easier than in 10 years with 2 preteens! (not to mention 10 years worth of 4 people's stuff)
Amen to that!!!! Had we moved with one kid, pre-school, we could have moved and rented a house anywhere, and then found the one we wanted to buy in the neighborhood/school zone we wanted. With school age kids, you either need to buy up front in the neighborhood you "think" you want, or rent where you want and hope to find a house to buy there, so the kids don't have to move schools, or rent and then when you buy, your kids may have to go to different schools again.

It adds so many more layers of complexity to it, and you are right on about how much more "stuff" you have later. 12 1/2 years ago, we still had most of our cheap college furniture, that we could have sold before we moved, and then moved with a small UHaul.

Still glad we moved, but I do have a quite a few more gray hairs from the stress of all of it!
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Old 03-17-2016, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Howard County, Maryland
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My family moved to a different state when I was entering 7th grade, and it was without a doubt the most miserable experience of my life. While everyone else in school had grown up together, I was the outsider. And so I remained. Worst two years of my life. It was better in high school, at least.

So, based solely on my own experience, I would recommend moving sooner rather than later.
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