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Old 03-18-2016, 10:27 AM
 
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Another vote for a "sooner" move, here.

If you are remaining in the same general area, do what you can to maintain ties with your children's current friends. Weekend activities, sleep-overs, parties, etc. can go far to ease the stress of moving away.
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Old 03-18-2016, 06:38 PM
 
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I would move sooner if you can, but we've moved with our kids several times. The first few moves didn't mean a change in schools, so not a big deal (we didn't really live in a neighborhood before that). The next move was a school move, and that was kind of tough on one of them initially (for several reasons, the school types were extremely different as well), but the other two adjusted well. They were 6th, 4th, and 3rd grade at the time. A few years later we moved to a different state and it was a completely different move. Kids were going into 8th, 6th, and 5th. This time it was very hard on a different kid and not so bad for the other two. We've moved places since then, but are mindful to stay in the same school district/school zone. I feel they have moved enough for the time being

My thoughts are that it's great to have some friendships to take with you into middle and high school, so an earlier move would allow time for the kids to make some friendships. My kids have adjusted and made some friends, but they lack a shared history that many of their friends have with one another. I think the state move was a lot easier for my kid who doesn't really want/need to have friends. He's not so bothered by being somewhere new.
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Old 03-19-2016, 10:55 PM
 
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My thoughts are that it's great to have some friendships to take with you into middle and high school, so an earlier move would allow time for the kids to make some friendships. My kids have adjusted and made some friends, but they lack a shared history that many of their friends have with one another.
Speaking from personal experience, I have to agree with this - my family moved from a small town to a big city, and it was much harder for my sister and I to adjust socially because we were middle and high school age. (our brother was still in elementary school, so it was probably easier for him)
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