Would you let soon to 5 year old invite kids who ignore her to party?

[GTM2008]

Originally Posted by pkbab5

Preschoolers don't usually *ignore* other kids. They are either shy, or don't realize they are supposed to respond. I've never seen a "snobby" preschooler. That's not really a thing they know how to do yet, unless they are *really* mature.


My 4 year old never responded to other kids saying hi (unless I prompted him) until one day it "clicked", and now he always does. It's not that he didn't like them, he just didn't realize that he was supposed to do something.


It's fine if you don't want to invite them to the party, especially as you have to pay extra for extra kids. But don't read too much into their behavior towards your daughter at this age, okay? They may eventually be friends with your daughter once they figure out how to be social creatures. Give them a bit to catch up to her.

Yes, my 4 year old is the same. He ignores his classmates or teachers' greetings in the morning when I drop him in his school. If I prompted him, then maybe he'll say "Hi" very quietly while still not looking at the other kids/teachers. And these are the kids that he would happily play later in the day.
At home, we practice saying "Hi" and "Bye" in loud clear voice, but he still won't do it in public.


As for the party invitation, I agree with the others to not mix the group.

[stan4]

I don't get the 'mixing groups' problem, but it's probably bc my son and the kids who have come to his parties have never had an issue playing together despite the fact that they come from several different groups (he doesn't go to school, but his Little Gym class, his swim class, my friends' kids, etc, mix all together fine).

But I sure as heck wouldn't invite one single kid who isn't nice to my kid.

Period.

Ever.