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He's calls me dad by accident alot and even told me he wished I was his dad during the good times. All this stuff just depresses me. He is still young and really smart and full of potential . I know I can't fix anyone Im just trying to show him some love and be a positive male role in this kids life and show him a little of what I was shown growing up
You are clearly a nice and good man, I commend you for trying to do the right thing. Also feel for the poor youngster. Sometimes we can only offer love.
I don't believe anyone or any situation created this child's problem, as another poster said, I think he is a sociopath or psychopath.
Take videos when he is out of hand to show the doctor/psychologist. Maybe he is behaving when he has been with them. They are manipulative and can say and do all the correct things to fool people.
It is your girlfriends son. Seems like she doesn't want your advice or anyone else's, and the child needs good professional help that can't be found in a social forum.
Your hands are tied no matter how much you care for him. My advice is for you to get out of this relationship and move on. You seem like a good caring person who is able to raise great kids of your own with a woman who shares your loving caring ways with children.
Many years ago, I became involved emotionally with a little boy down the road with many problems, but his mother refused to see them and the courts would not give his father custody.
The school turned their back on him and just passed him on to the next grade each year because the teacher was exhausted with him. At the age if eighteen he went to prison for murdering his friend in the most terrible way.
Really sad. It seems as if neither his mom or dad is setting boundaries for their son and he is really acting out. The fact his behavior has gotten to the point of exposing himself and hurting animals is very disconcerting. I feel for the kid, but agree you need to leave.
You are clearly a nice and good man, I commend you for trying to do the right thing. Also feel for the poor youngster. Sometimes we can only offer love.
Agreed.
You must put yourself first at times. In this case your sanity is worth it.
I'm thinking this kid is a bad seed and poor environment will only make it worse. Some kids really are born bad. He's awfully smart in his manipulations so young; would an abused child be so crafty for his own gain?
For the reason your gf isn't really into active parenting with this challenging child - that alone would make me leave. I have so little respect for non-parenting parents.
You can keep loving this child...from afar. I also think you are very wise not to be alone with him; always have witnesses.
So the mom is a permissive doormat and his father's not involved and he has no stable home life or family and strange men are parading in and out of his life and he didn't turn out to be an upstanding Eagle Scout?
Shocker.
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