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Old 03-31-2016, 04:13 PM
 
Location: garland
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You have done everything reasonable to try and help. It's time to wash your hands of the situation and move on with your life.
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Old 03-31-2016, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Long Neck , DE
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I'm at the end of my rope. He calls her a c..nt, talks back constantly. He already has been removed from public school for exposing him self, swearing at teachers students and hitting. He has no diagnosed disabilities. He doesn't have any fear of punishment. He has to be watched while handling small animals and dogs. He abuses animals tried to choke a guinea pig and purposely hurt it and constantly feels the need to hurt things. He has never been hit or abused. He accepts no redirection from us or his teachers. He has to have the last word no matter what. I've raised my god son/nephew due to his mother being absent and helped with my cousins children for a few years after he passed and they had some issues of their own. I've never had a child be so disrespectful and have no remorse for his actions like this and have had to stop him from coming to my house because of fear what he will do or lie and say. And refuse to be alone with him ever he can not be trusted. He has told school and child protective services lies on countless occasions lies to get his way and try to get his mother and I in trouble for taking his tablet away and said we hit him . He is extremely manipulative. He also said daddy touched my peanut to avoid going there for split custody which has been forever. Upon investigating the department of child services specialist decided it was a lie. I don't know what to do and it's tearing us apart. My girlfriend constantly makes excuses and doesn't punish and still gives him chance after chance. Shes leaving me no options and I see myself losing it I'm not perfect and at the end of my rope. I am an extremely laid back individual who is always calm and believe in structure, unconditional love and understanding but I'm losing it. Help
Very simple answer here.. There is nothing you can do.
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Old 03-31-2016, 04:45 PM
 
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How old is this kid?

It seems you and your gf each have your own homes. I'd change the locks today and when she's not with her son tell her it is over. If you need to write a letter or do it over the phone, it doesn't matter.

It would be one thing if your gf was doing her absolute best with the situation and trying to get him help, but she's doing the bare minimum and doesn't seem to care about her son.

If you want a marriage and future children, that would be impossible right now or even in the future with your current gf and her son.

Leave, now. This will not get better over night if ever.
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Old 03-31-2016, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Finally escaped The People's Republic of California
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Interesting how when OP got pissed the kid shut up, sounds like its time for good old fashioned bend over the knee a$$ whipping, I know that's not PC today but it sure worked when I was a kid ( back before color TV)...
OP get out now, before the lying little brat get you in trouble with his lies.
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Old 03-31-2016, 05:08 PM
 
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My question for the OP is why are you wasting one second even dating this woman? Is a women who doesn't care enough about her mess of a son to get him help the kind of woman you want to date and maybe marry? She isn't doing anything to help her son which means she has just as many issues as her son does; they just might not be as easily visible.

Unless you have just as many issues as these two do I don't understand why you aren't already running like heck away from this situation.
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Old 03-31-2016, 05:43 PM
 
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So how many posts and how many stories are you going to keep telling us, when all the posts have told you what a bad situation you are in. Either do something about your situation, or stop moaning about it.
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Old 03-31-2016, 06:04 PM
 
Location: Beautiful Upstate NY!
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Leave now, before you hurt this kid, and thus screw up your own life. It does not sound worth it.

Just hope that you can walk away cleanly...because if this kid still has it out for you when he hits his teens, he may just kill you.
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Old 03-31-2016, 06:20 PM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Well if your girlfriend "constantly makes excuses" and "doesn't punish", you have your answer. She has raised a little brat who is well on his way to outright criminal behavior. Does his father discipline him and is that why he doesn't want to go there? The three of them need help getting on the same page to help their son before it's too late. I don't blame you for doubting you have a place in it all.

This. The boy has a serious personality disorder. Oppositional defiant disorder or worse. And families that don't believe in structure and appropriate discipline, and make excuses for dysfunctional behavior OFTEN have children who "act out". If she has no limits with her son, the boy will keep pushing until he finds a limit. Unfortunately, that limit could be the law.'

I really hope that no one is hurt. Including you.

Please save your time, and yourself. This is not your baby, and you don't need to rock it.
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Old 03-31-2016, 06:22 PM
 
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Interesting how when OP got pissed the kid shut up, sounds like its time for good old fashioned bend over the knee a$$ whipping, I know that's not PC today but it sure worked when I was a kid ( back before color TV)...
OP get out now, before the lying little brat get you in trouble with his lies.
It isn't the OP's place to spank a child who isn't his.
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Old 03-31-2016, 07:11 PM
 
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Run. Or take the kid for the day and smack the stew out of him. Okay no...really...just kidding... maybe
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