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Old 02-12-2008, 07:36 AM
 
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How old do you think a teen should be to be able to start "dating" someone? I don't mean anything other than hanging out with friends or movies but with a particular person. How did you handle it when the situation came up?
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Old 02-12-2008, 08:11 AM
 
Location: beautiful North Carolina
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Extremely supervised. Anytime my son decided he was dating someone, they were closely monitored and I always kept the lines open with the other parent. It really makes it easier when both parents are on the same page.
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Old 02-12-2008, 08:26 AM
 
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My daughter is 2 now, but I think after she graduates college would be a good time to allow her to start dating...totally reasonable
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Old 02-12-2008, 08:43 AM
 
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My kids are 7 and almost 5, so I have years to think about this, but I can't imagine either of them "dating" before the age of 16 or 17. Group "dates" with a bunch of kids, maybe at 15ish.
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Old 02-12-2008, 09:47 AM
 
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16 is fair, with very strict rules.
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Old 02-12-2008, 09:56 AM
 
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16 is fair, with very strict rules.
What would your rules be? How do you control what kind of supervision goes on in someoone elses home with the parents there?
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Old 02-12-2008, 10:05 AM
 
Location: Southern NC
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Well. at 16 I'm ASSuming that it would be a "going out" date...as in dinner, a movie....I always keep in touch with my kids by cell, when they are leaving a place, they call, when they arrive at the next place, they call....curfew is at 12am on weekends for my oldest (she's turning 18.) She rarely gets to go out though...she goes to school & has a job too.
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Old 02-12-2008, 10:18 AM
 
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Oh the drama of teenagers! My son was emailed by two 8th grade girls that saw his picture on a friend's Facebook and thought he was "hot". He thought he liked one until she became insecure (duh!) and then started liking the other. #2's friend also likes my son but he only likes her as a friend. My son was at the "just a friends" house as well as the girl he currently likes and one other girl. He was the only boy. Both parents were home. Later that night my son tells me that he was in bed with both girls with his arms around both, cuddling, he says with the door closed!! As soon as the girls left the room, he started making out with the one that he currently likes. What's not to like...he only just saw her in person after weeks of texting and is making out with him a few hours later! I called the mother that had the kids over and told her in the future to make sure the bedroom door is open so everyone is safe. She thought the door was open. She thinks her daughter isn't interested in boys but her daughter likes my son. I told her the kids where making out right under her nose and that I will have a talk about respect, again, with my son, but to watch things in the future for her girls sake. Whew!!!!
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Old 02-12-2008, 10:24 AM
 
Location: Wake Forest
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my kids can date after I'm dead!

I guess 16...I don't know- I started dating when I was 15 (almost 16). It REALLY depends on the kids. My curfew (up until the time I moved out at 18) was 10pm.

Come hell or high water, I better be home at that time too!

Will be the same for my kids. I will also have to meet the 'date' and have their parents name and phone number.
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Old 02-12-2008, 10:45 AM
 
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I dread this question! 18 is probably the magic number. Only same gender kids allowed in the room with door closed (son with boys, daughter with girls) until they're married! Before that, dating in group (as in movies, ice scream, Laser tag, etc.) and cell phones and parent's contact infos.
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