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Its not good or bad. It just is. However, since this works for your family and you and your husband are aligned on that decision then its obviously right for your family.
Money is definitely not an issue and my husband supports me 200% on this.
Why are you asking random strangers on a public forum if what you and your husband have decided is best for your family if it is bad?
In theory you are two responsible adults who do not need permission from anyone in regards to your life decisions.
If you and your husband had a financial situation like Mr. Money Mustache where he is independently wealthy and his blog alone generates 400k a year then by all means, both of you stay at home.
But if you are barely making 32k a year, your child has some disabilities, and you are more than likely supplementing insurance and food money with government assistance....AND your husband is already a SAHD.... Then you should do yourself, your family, and society a favor and get a job.
If you have enough money coming in to do that and it won't hurt your long term career, then it's fine. I would definitely take out enough life insurance on the working spouse, just in case.
If you have to use credit cards or money is too tight, then no. If your career suffers, then no. You have to think long term OP.
I've done both, and staying home can make finances tough. If your husband can't work, dies or loses his job, it can really make your whole family suffer. Only you can know your situation. Talk it over with a financial advisor and your husband.
Money is definitely not an issue and my husband supports me 200% on this.
My "babies" are 13 now and I'd love to have those early years back again. (Yes, even though they were brutal and neither baby ever slept.)
Cherish these young years -- they fly. Take a billion pictures. Kiss a lot because at a certain point they're too big to attack with cuddles anymore. Travel, teach (without being annoying) and buy a copy of Jim Trelease's The Read-Aloud Handbook.
It's a super, super book that gives tons of great titles to read to your child through the years. And sharing a book together is very bonding!
If you don't need to work: DON'T!
The right job can be a lot of fun and great for keeping the brain stimulated etc., but our kids are a treasure chest full of rubies and gold and diamonds.
But these treasure chests grow up.
Enjoy the treasure now while it's still on the scene.
My "babies" are 13 now and I'd love to have those early years back again. (Yes, even though they were brutal and neither baby ever slept.)
Cherish these young years -- they fly. Take a billion pictures. Kiss a lot because at a certain point they're too big to attack with cuddles anymore. Travel, teach (without being annoying) and buy a copy of Jim Trelease's The Read-Aloud Handbook.
It's a super, super book that gives tons of great titles to read to your child through the years. And sharing a book together is very bonding!
If you don't need to work: DON'T!
The right job can be a lot of fun and great for keeping the brain stimulated etc., but our kids are a treasure chest full of rubies and gold and diamonds.
But these treasure chests grow up.
Enjoy the treasure now while it's still on the scene.
Alley
Thank you, Alley...and - yes - reading to them goes a long way. I will most definitely check out the book you suggested. I feel so blessed to have been able to spend all this time with our son. As a result, we have a very strong bond and rapport. I also have been able to homeschool him (he loves it) and as a result, he has known his upper- and lower-case ABCs by name, can somewhat sight read, and counts to 25, as well as knows his colors and shapes. The psychologist said several months ago that he was at a kindergarten level academically...and he gets to go to classes, the library, the park, and indoor play areas at least 5x/week for socialization with other children.
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